What the hell is wrong with me!!!! I've been single now for a while after a divorce last year...I just can't seem to get close with a guy!! I've had loads of opportunities but I just can't seem to trust anyone! I have lots of friends and they're constantly telling my how gorgeous I am and how easy going I am but as soon as I get chatted up by a guy I close up!!! Am I a freak??
Any feedback welcome!!!!
2007-02-07 06:23:24 · 19 answers · asked by prettywoman 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To martin c.....what makes you think I'm thinking of myself???? All I do is think of others and worry about everybody else...is one not entitled to worry about oneself once in a while???
2007-02-07 07:25:15 · update #1
you need 2 know that u are normal,there are no rules in being ready 4 dating,and never to date again would not be a waste of your life.if you accept that you are happy with yourself being unattached,then you will be more relaxed when someone shows affection towards you.If you where a freek what would that make me! my ex and i split up 20 yrs ago and iv not been with anyone since,i am very shy.
2007-02-07 09:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Wasp 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are just hurting from the past and over cautious right now. I can relate to that as I am getting over a relationship and a bit up in the air. I want a relationship but I am scared of being hurt again. Not quite a divorce but similar feeling I guess.
You're not a freak just human. Either that or I am a freak too :-)
2007-02-07 07:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a freak you need a bit of 'me time' to get to know yourself so you don't make the same mistake again and go for the same traits in a new partner that are the same as your ex partner, because if you do then it will end the same way. So think about yourself and what you want - not what they want. This is your second chance to get it right so don't go with somebody just because your confidence needs a boost. You are in charge now so pick and choose to your own advantage. Good luck.
2007-02-07 06:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have trust issues because of your ex husband. You think about getting too close to someone and then getting hurt again. Just try to be yourself but still keep that shield up and try not to let things get to you. I don't know if you drink but sometimes a couple of beers or something will help people talk more! LoL!
2007-02-07 06:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by K-E-G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just are not ready yet . Deep down inside you are afraid it wont work out and you don't want to get hurt. Try to make a guy friend on line and chat with him until you get over this and then you will be able to talk with a guy.This happened to me and i made friends on line and it worked out good I have some new friends now and do well with the girls now.
2007-02-07 06:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are scared to get close again and wind up hurt. It's not freakish, it's normal. And maybe none of the guys are making you feel warm and fuzzy inside and you just haven't found one worth the risk.
Because any relationship is a risk, even people in love can wind up not together, maybe it will just take a really exceptional guy to get you to feel ready and jump into it again.
2007-02-07 06:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by nymom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're afraid to get close because you're afraid of rejection. Maybe you should wait a bit longer for the dating scence or try just being friends with the guys first to see if you can develop trust that way
2007-02-07 06:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by msX 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not that long after a divorce and need some time to adjust. What's the hurry? Get interested in other things and when you least expect something to happen it usually does. You have the rest of your life and it looks like you are not ready yet which is perfectly normal.
2007-02-07 07:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by foxy4t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your divorce was last year. Chill out and relax. It will take some time. Try just being friends with some guys for a while, no romance and see if that helps your comfort level.
2007-02-07 06:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's nothing wrong with you.
When someone breaks your heart, especially when you've been wed, you lose trust. You're afraid to share yourself with someone else because you don't want to go through it all again.
You need to make sure you've completely come to terms with the divorce and everything is settled. After that, work on boosting your self-esteem and put yourself out there. Make sure to go on more casual dates -- you may simply be not ready.
2007-02-07 06:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Slippers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋