ok i have a sex addiction and i have a hard time even trying to meet girls anymore. i try not to show my addiction. but i want a real relationship. one that will treat me right. no smart a** comments please
2007-02-07 06:17:51 · 13 answers · asked by n_jevne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your really serious about settling into a relationship then you probably would want to make sure you get your addiction under control ...otherwise you can end up hurting someone you really care about...
2007-02-07 06:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying not to show your addiction will not help.
The first thing you need to do in confront the addiction & be honest with people you can trust. Then find a local mental health cllinic and talk to a professional there.
Once you talk to the pro..... you'll have a handle on if it is true addiction, fetish, or simply part of being a man.
When you have a handle on being able to function normally... ie go to work & pay bills & not get into conflicts. Then will be the time to meet a nice girl and have a real relationship. Start with honesty and continue with honesty.
if it turns out to be addiction, tell her all about it. If it turns out to be fetish, be honest about that and the professional help you sought to determine the scenerio.
2007-02-07 14:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by dharp66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, lets see If i undertand, you have a sex addiction? Is it an addiction where you have to be with a lot of girls sexually or when you want to have sex all the time? I will try and give you advice on both:
If you feel the need to be sexually activie all the time with many girls then ask yourself what do you get out of this relationships. Is it the attention, the way you feel, the ego maybe of being with many. Is it maybe the fact that no serious emotional feelings are involved, that it seems to be physical only... and since you dont have a serious relationship then you dont have any ties with this person. You are done and go on your way? You know this route is dangerous, it can lead you to many negative outcomes. you can hurt yourself, there are many people out there that hurt your health. Unfortunaltey people are not honest and they can lie and say well "I dont have any STD's" and there lies. Be careful, try and control your urges of being with many. If you feel you cant seek professional help, or maybe you just need a nice serious relationship with somebody...
Oh, and you are having a hard time with females? Well ask yourself, do you ask, or try and initate sex as soon as you meet them? Dont it hurts the encounter as soon as you do it, you come across pushy and they think 'Hey this guy only wants me for my body" thats a big major turn off.... Next time you think of doing it stop yourself. You and the other person might deserve better than just a one night stand...
If you are addicted to sex, by I want sex all the time then it might not be too bad. You are probably very sexually active. Its ok, unless it starts interfering with your normal life, routine, work friends, daily obligations then you might be in trouble. Sex, love whatever you want to call it is a beatiful experience but you should control it not it. If you feel that you lost control then seek a professional person that can maybe find out why its so important in your life. What do you lack that is causing you to supplement it with sex? By doing this, it doesnt mean you are crazy and need help. It just means that sometimes we need to be told by somebody else how we are and what we can do to help ourselves in situations when we feel we lost control...
Good luck! Look or wait for the person you want in your life with an open heart, but first you have to be sure of yourself, and know who you are to have somebody in your life...
2007-02-07 14:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, is this addiction to porn, sex itself or what? There are many girls out there that have a high sex drive and are looking for a man like them. You can be in a healthy relationship and still enjoy, the many different aspects of sex. Just be honest, dont lie and hide who you are. GL
2007-02-07 14:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sex addiction to...no joke, I met a guy that I am going to marry. We have an open relationship and its great. Find a girl that has a sex addiction too...don't worry they are out there.
2007-02-07 14:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by ~Jamaica~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so we all have a addiction but if u want a real relationship u have to stop some time k
2007-02-07 14:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by melton_misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to imagine the girl as a human, as a friend, and as more, but not as a sexual partner, but as a partner of spirit and mind.
2007-02-07 14:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A constant lust comes from fear avoidence.Lust feels better than fear.
The best long term thing you can do is face every fear you can.It's good for you.Avoiding bad emotions make them worse.They grow into a big monster.
2007-02-08 10:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should maybe try counseling or maybe Dr. Phil or something. I really don't know what to tell you since i don't know anyone like that. Not like you are a bad thing or something. Well you know what i mean. good luck.
2007-02-07 14:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try focusing more on a relationship instead of something sexual. take things slow. if you still have trouble you make want to look into conseling
2007-02-07 14:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋