I'm a teenager turning 18 soon and I really like this guy that's over 20 years older than me. But he's so mature and sweet. But he's happily married to his wife and has 4 boys although they don't live here with him. We haven't done anything but I just like him so much and I can see a future with him.
2007-02-07 06:16:15 · 16 answers · asked by *~Nikki~* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think I have a mental problem because I also have feelings for a guy that's exactly 20 yrs older than me, is married and has 2 girls. I don't want to I just find my self attracted to them. I no its wrong. I have a sick obsession. I can get a guy my age easily I just dont want to.
2007-02-07 07:08:05 · update #1
WOW I understand the feeling, i dated someone with kids before...and it's not hard but it requires extra work into the relationship, not to mention that he's way older. When two people really love eachother....and if it's worth it....it's worth doing it. BUT You're only 18 (well almost) and I remember back when i was 18.....your feelings and emotions change like a rollercoaster......you should give yourself sometime for yourself.....figure out what you want.....your life is barely starting and him on the other hand...already has his life made up. It's not bad.....but you have to figure out what you want out of life, not just love life, but everything is general. And remember, what is meant to be......will find it's way. I'm pretty sure he'll wait for you.....if not....that should tell you something. Besides he's married lol not like he's going anywhere. Also.....if he's happily married...why would he be fooling around with you? What's he does to her....he would probably do to you!
2007-02-07 06:23:52 · answer #1 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that man alone He should be arrested , you are still a minor and he should know better. I have a great idea! Tell his wife or one of his kids, see what they think about the whole situation. I bet his kids are little too. Think of all that child support he's going to have to pay when his wife gets through with him..Little lady how attractive is this penniless old man going to be to you then.. Oh yeah ! Did I mantion how bitter he will be by then? run as fast as you can into the arms of someone your own age.
2007-02-07 14:24:32 · answer #2 · answered by sereta zandrae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you said in the question: Happily married. That means something, right? Do the right thing and let this go. It is much more than just the two of you with a third party involved called his family.
2007-02-07 14:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by mcpouches 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you see a future with a married man? Perhaps it is just the type of person that he is that you like. Look for a man like him who is not married.
If you could break up his marriage, you would not be with an honest man. You do not want to be with a cheater, because he will cheat on you too.
Take care,
Troy
2007-02-07 14:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably looking for a father figure for some reason. You need to relax and enjooy life a bit and quite looking for a "future" with someone for a while.
As to *this* guy, you so have to get away from him. Do you really want to wreck a marriage and take a father away from 4 little kids?
2007-02-07 14:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not brake up a happy family! think of those boys and stop being so selfish, you need to keep away from this family there are many more sweet and mature men out there i know its hard to be around a man who makes you feel so good but why destroy live to please your own needs you need to start acting like an adult and not a child,if he would cheat on his wife with you then why would you want to be with a cheater? so he can eventually do it to you then? think!
2007-02-07 14:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see where your coming from. Your obviously in love.
But imagine if you guys got married and were having a wonderful marriage.. everything was great and you guys had four kids...
W0ULD Y0U WANT S0ME0NE TRYiNG T0 STEAL Y0UR MAN?
Its that simple. dont mess with this family..
theres obviously no room for you here so just move on.
Theres no point in recking something beautiful..
2007-02-07 14:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pathetically headed down the wrong path.
What is it about him that makes him mature or even sweet if he is seeing you behind his wife's back? Have you even stopped to consider that at all? Obviously not.
There is nothing so terribly bad about you that you have to settle for a man that has no respect for you or his wife or his children.
Think about it.
2007-02-07 14:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS MARRIED. Don't be a S L U T. One day you'll be married to a man of your own - think about it. Don't be such a selfish immature prat.
2007-02-07 14:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone...and move on.
Think of how you would be ruining the lives of those boys and his wife.
2007-02-07 14:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋