I'm in a long-distant relationship, or WAS. He hardly ever called me, I addressed the issue, but he told me that it was just how he is. I accepted it, until the calls became even more infrequent, until I didn't hear from him for two weeks, but I kept calling him every 3-4 days and he would answer. It occured to me that if I didn't call him, I would probably never hear from him. so I stopped calling, a week went by, and I thought, I'm putting an end to this, I called him only for him to tell me that he's at work and will call me later. 7 hours later, I decided to text him saying "You could have told me it's over, bin the stuff I left at your place, gud luck with univerisity". He didn't reply, and that was a week ago. Do you think I did the right thing?! He's on MSN, where he knows I go on most nights and hasn't blocked me, should I go online and let him see me or let him wonder where I am?!!
2007-02-07 06:09:51 · 15 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont crush the guy. talk to him
2007-02-07 06:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by .:xXx:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously not that interest in you if he fails to return your calls or text messages. He probably has a squeeze closer to him and is with her every time you call.
The on line thing? Maybe he wants you to track him down on line and catch him talking with another women. This would be a reason for you to end it...basically so he doesn't have to.
Some guys have a hard time breaking up from their end. They hope you get the message through lack of responses from them.
Long distant relationships are usually impossible. You don't know what he's doing and he doesn't care.
Take a break and set your sights on finding someone closer to home. That way, if the calls and text messages go unanswered again, at least you can drop in for a visit.
Maybe he just doesn't want to hurt your feeling outright.
Best of luck and keep your chin up. There's someone out there for everyone.
2007-02-07 14:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making a long distance relationship work is tough, but when one of the people isn't even making an effort, then making it work is impossible. If he really wanted to make your relationship work, he would have contacted you more often. He could have called, texted, emailed, or IM'ed . . . none of which takes that much effort. But he didn't, even after you talked to him about it. So, yes, I think you did the right thing by officially ending the relationship. You may want to consider talking to him one last time when you pick up your things (just for your own closure), but other than that I would say put him and this experience behind you and move on.
2007-02-07 15:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mattofep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man wants to contact you. he will. He plainly has a very full life without you or he would probably want to talk every now and then. I think you went from a long-distance relationship to one that only still exist on your part. Leave him alone for a couple months , if he doesn't contact you i bet is safe to think he's done and doesn't know how to tell you .
2007-02-07 14:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by sereta zandrae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently it seems like he lost some interest. I know it's probably really hard on you.....BUT the hardest thing is that he doesn't have the balls to tell you. You need to look for closure in order to be able to move on. If he won't talk to you.....ask yourself this question...."Do I really need this?" If someone is not willing to do for you, what you're willing to do for them....there's a problem. Try sending a letter expressing your feelings....dont keep them inside....letting it out will help you get closure and make it easier to move on ;)
Good Luck
2007-02-07 14:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't think he cares. You were out of site and out of mind. Long distance relationships never really give anyone the chance to establish close ties. Sounds to me like he didn't invest much into this. And in turn at this point, neither should you......
2007-02-07 14:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by ariesespo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! He is not worth chasing, you have already proven that this relationship has know value to him at this time. He has not learned to multi task. You know walking an chewing gum at the same time , cooking and talking on the phone, typing and checking the appointment book ect. ect.
2007-02-07 14:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave it all alone. If he is long-distance then let it be and move on. It'll be easier to move on since you won't ever see him. Also erase any numbers or im's so you don't have a reason to talk to him. Good Luck.
2007-02-07 14:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's tempting to hang around where he is (online or not) but that just smacks of desperation. I think you should just move on with your life. I'm sorry, but he's just not interested in a relationship with you. For whatever reason. Move on & find someone worthy of you.
2007-02-07 14:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIS SCARY *** TO TELL you STRAIGHT UP I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOUR TALKIN ABOUT I WAS GOIN WITH MY EX 4 ABOUT 5 MONTHS N THEN HE MOVED TO ARIZONA 14 HOURS AWAY N HE DID THE SAME THING N I TOLD HIM N HE SAID HE JUST NEEDED SUMTIME BUT DAMN HOW MUCH TIME DOES HE NEED N NOW THAT WER NOT TOGEATHER HE KALLS ME WATA *** WELL GIVE HIM EXACTLY 1 4 DAYS IF HE DNT KALL U OR TXT U OR EMAIL YOU THEN ITS OVER BUT U TALK TO HIM N TELL HIM HE COULD OF GREW SUM BALLZ JUST 4 LIKE 10 MIN TO TELL U ITS OVER K HOPE I KAN HELP ANY MORE ? MSG ME AT mzzbubbles@yahoo.com
2007-02-07 14:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by MIZZ B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you desperate and dateless, hardup for a companion or just plain thick headed? The guy is a loser and your wasting your time on him....move on and go find a decent, caring guy that will be there with and for you. the one you got is a dud.
2007-02-07 14:15:24 · answer #11 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋