2007-02-07 06:09:32 · 17 answers · asked by Ash06 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Most likely no punishment will be necessary. Experience tells me there is a really good reason your child did this. A bully would be my #1 guess, but it could also be personality issues with the teacher, a fight with a friend, academic problems... even a spider in her desk. But you have to get to the root of the problem first. You have to find out why.
Good luck! I hope it works out well for you!
2007-02-07 08:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
There is only one punishment for such a misbehavior. SPANKING.
Yes, If my daughter refused to go to class, unless she had a real darn good reason (such as one of the children had a loaded gun in the classroom, lol) Her bottom would be glowing in the dark for a while. Why? because moments before, she'd be bare bottomed, over my or her dad's lap getting the spanking of her life. I, especially my husband have ZERO tolerance for disrespecting authority, the fact that it was in school would make it 10x worse. If I even get a phone call, bad note, or a teacher pulling me aside to notify me of one of my daughters behavior issues at school, they get a spanking. Imagine if one of them got suspended, yep, it would most certainly be the spanking of their life.
Added to all this would be a HUGE list of chores they would be doing during the suspension. After all that is said and done she will also write apology letters to both her teacher, and principal. Then I will ask her teacher if it would be OK if she made a public apology to her whole classroom. If she refused any of this, her bottom would go for round 2, no questions asked!
I know I am a strict mom, that's why mine haven't tried that yet (hope, hope for their bottoms sake)
The best thing as a mom you can do for your daughter is follow my advise. If you can't, get her father too.
Good Luck
2007-02-08 04:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why she didn't want to go to class. That's rather unusual behavior for an 8 year old. Find out if there is a bully in her class, see if she is having trouble with her studies. She may have learning disabilities that make her not like school. With some help it might be better.
As far as punishment, I would tell her if it happens again, you will take away some privilege that she likes, like TV or video games, something for a few days, and if it continues, the time will be longer.
I would find out first what's going on in her life because generally kids this age don't refuse to go to class.
Good luck.
2007-02-07 14:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would not punish her. The school has punished her by suspending her and if you punished her it would be double punishment.
I think you should first find out why she didn't go to class. Let her talk and listen. If there is a good reason help her to find a better choice then skipping class. When given the chance kids come up with great ideas and it will help her practice for the adult years.
However, if she simply didn't want to go talk with her about the importance of school and help her find ways of coping with the class.
Good luck!!
2007-02-07 14:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jen T 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why is she refusing to go to class? Is the teacher mean to her or something? Or is she just throwing a tantrum? If she is just throwing a tantrum, then a good spanking couldn't hurt to motivate her a little. Take everything out of her room except her bed and dresser. Tell her she has to go to school to earn all of her things back. If nothing else works, take her to talk to someone. Could be she has a learning disability and no one has caught onto it yet. It happens.
2007-02-08 11:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a field trip to a local homeless shelter. Show her in person what could happen if she decides she doesn't want to go to school anymore. Not all people in a homeless shelter dropped out of school, but many of them either got pregnant and couldn't finish school, decided they knew everything about being an adult so they dropped out or drugs got them to drop out. Show her what could happen to her if she decides she wants to continue this behavior. You could also show her financially why she needs to go to school and finish school. Put her in charge of the family money. Give her pretend control over the finances and let her go at it. As soon as she sees how much everything costs and if she had a job paying minimum wage how her life as she knows it would cease to exist. Both interesting ways to solve your problem but this way may last a lifetime instread of the standard grounding that she won't remember very long. She will always remember what the people that don't have a home to come home to look like. These methods should work long term for a child that doesn't want to go to school.
2007-02-07 14:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's 0 acceptable excuse -- other than the actions of a classmate. But, you shouldn't ask HER by introducing the topics... becuase she just might agree or lie, to get passed the punishment. She could be a trouble-maker or troubled herself. She could fear the subject matter. She might just need some love, from you and understanding.. but, it's tricky, because more and more, she'll understand she can GET OUT of responsibility, if you don't make her see there's a MUST in must go to class.
2007-02-07 14:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Refuse to let her out of her room, talk on the phone, watch tv, or do anything other than read. Explain to her that that was very disrespectful and that it won't be tollerated. Take not amount of begging from her either. Just stick to your guns and make her understand that she's never to act up like that again.
2007-02-07 14:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
before you worry about a punishment you need to find the source of why he/she refused to go to class, Maybe a issue with the teacher???? or a class mate that make your child scared to go... its not normal for a 3rd grader to flat out refuse to go to class.
2007-02-07 14:44:12 · answer #9 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Mke your 8 year old spend extra time in school helping clean or teachers grade papers! BUT BEWARE! THERE COULD BE A BULLYING PROBLEM> SHE MAY BEING BULLIES AND REFUSE TO TELL YOU WHATS GOING ON! LOOK INTO IT CAREFULLY!
2007-02-07 14:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by roseysuzy1128 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋