If a couple knows that they are definitely getting married.....?

Question

Is the ring really that important?? I mean sure it protocol but what i want to know how many people have had successful "ring less" proposals?? (serious answers plz)

Answer 1

I did. Because he spontaneously proposed while we were driving to work. I actually said no, though, because I wasn't sure he was really okay with my age (4 years older). And wasn't sure he was serious. He was serious, because he was really disappointed, but asked again about two weeks later, while we were at work (he was my supervisor). I said yes, and didn't even think about the ring. I was just happy.

It actually depends on the couple. Has she shown you rings? Has she said anything that would lead you to believe she wouldn't mind?

If you know you are definitely getting married, you know your future spouse pretty well. How will she take it? If she really wants a symbol of the engagement, you probably need a ring. But then again, she may not care.

I have been married for nearly 25 years, and had actually forgotten that I didn't get a ring when he proposed.

I had fun going to jewelry stores with him looking for the perfect ring: he got me one of those engagement ring/wedding ring sets that fit together to look like one ring.

Hope you find the solution that works for you.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

When my husband and I got married, we were very young and very poor, so we just had matching wedding bands. I thought it was no big deal, but in the back of my mind, I thought that eventually we would be able to afford an engagement ring, and he would figure it out on his own that he should get me one. Big Mistake. He's a wonderful person, but he's a guy. After about 15 years of marriage, it started to really bother me that I didn't have an engagement ring. I had to mention this for a very long time, in increasingly emotional ways until I got one. When we had been married twenty-four and a half years, he bought one with a half carat diamond. About five years later, I decided that I really deserved one with a full carat diamond. We kept the first one, thinking that our son may want to use it for an engagement ring when he gets married. My only advice, if you are a girl, and if you are going without an engagement ring for reasons of poverty, is not to think that your husband will figure out on his own that it might be a good idea to give you one in the future. Bring that up now. Explain that you are being a terrific sport about this now, but that it's not your intention that the two of you will be poverty-stricken forever. Talk about when an engagement ring might be something that you can afford. For example, if you are both graduating from college in two years, and you expect to be getting good jobs after that, suggest that a year after graduation would be a good time for you to get a ring. Then tell people that in his presence.

Answer 3

I didn't get an engagement ring. I still don't have one. I have a wedding band. We didn't want to spend the $ on a ring. We had other ideas as to where that sort of money should be going. Like, a new queen size bed rather than my futon or his twin size.

The ring is a symbol, nothing more nothing less. We will be married 7 yrs in April.

Answer 4

The ring doesnt matter i know about 5 couples who didnt have a ring and they been married, 5, 19, 4, 9, and 13 years

Answer 5

I proposed over the telephone (I was 2300 miles away at the time, having just started a new job), so handing her a ring the moment I asked her to marry me wasn't possible.

By the time I flew back to see her next, I had acquired a ring (I had cleverly determined previously that my left little finger and her left ring finger were the same size). I wore it on the plane and gave it to her when she met me at the airport. That was 28 years ago, and we're still married, so I think you can count it as a successful proposal. :-)

Answer 6

If both are ok with a ring-less proposal, then I see no problem.
I did not do it that way, but my wedding ring cracked and needs repair. I have not had that done and it has been years that I have not worn it. The ring is not a big deal to me and I am no less committed to my marriage than any other good husband.

Answer 7

i didn't expect to get a ring from my husband. we knew we were going to elope so we thought the whole engagement thing was a moot point, however he surprised me one night with a gorgeous ring and got down on one knee.

i had been engaged before and i didn't care if i was ever engaged again b/c i thought it was a silly tradition. however, it made me feel special and very different from the first time.

if you aren't interested in a ring, then don't worry about it. maybe you will want a nice anniversary band later on to get some bling on that finger! maybe not....

go with whatever is right for the two of you!

take car.e

i shopped for my first ring and the second one was a total shock. i love knowing that my husband picked my ring out for me. it's gorgeous and i love it and the fun thing is that i probably would have never even tried it on in the store, but looking at it on my finger makes me so happy and makes me realize how beautiful it really is. it's COMPLETELY different from that first ring, which is sitting in a pawn shop somewhere in MD!!!HA!

Answer 8

My fiance asked me without having a ring...that gave us a chance to go ring shopping together and pick the perfect ring that we both love. Now a days it's quite common since there are so many different types of metals, stones (not just diamonds anymore), and cuts of stones.

Answer 9

I'm assuming your talking about yourself. And you're talking engagement rings.

If a ring isn't that important to you, then don't bother. It's a lot of money and if you can't afford it but want one, you can get one later. If you just don't want one, nobody is telling you you HAVE to get one (if they are, they're wrong).

Just remember it's a common practice. So you will have to tell people (well, you'll have to tell them you're engaged, because they can't see it on your finger) that you chose not to get a ring. Most will ask why. Answer or don't, that's up to you.

Answer 10

I think the ring is more important than the cost of the ring. Everyone can afford a plastic ring.