How do I convince him to give it a chance?

Question

My husband has been in law enforcement for park services for the past 5 years,
He has been unhappy with his current job for at least the last 2, but where he is nothing ever happens.
He wants to quit law altogether saying it hasn't been rewarding for him at all, I keep trying to encourage him to get a posting somewhere that he'd be happier.
He hasn't in my honest opinion gotten the full "taste" and range of what he can actually do.
I know how dangerous his job can be, depending on where/if he requested a transfer somewhere else, it does scare me, but it bothers me even more to know my husband feels like a "failure" at his job even though I try to tell him all the time that it matters that he is doing an honest days work.
How can I convince him to try a posting somewhere else before he completely gives up on his career and himself?

Answer 1

If your hubby is tired of coppin after five years then there definitely needs to be a change. He has got way too long to go reach retirement to feel that was already. I would assume if your husband is like most cops, he got into the job because he has an innate overwhelmings desire to help and protect people. This is needed in all facets of life. From the "big city" cop to the "local" sheriff and especially yes, the parks police and fish and game. Your husband is still new enough in this career to want to aggressively and proactively get involved and starting out at a department where the sidewalks roll up at night and nothing ever happens can really frustrate a police officer. Especially if like all younger officers, they watch cops, probably some of the guys/girls he works with came to that department from a bigger one and he listens to all their stories and wishes and wants to have stories like that for himself. If any of my ramblings are closely on track then he needs to expand and try somewhere else before it gets too late. It is easier to give up four or five years then it is 10 or 12. Then regret not ever taking the chance. It may change his whole perspective of the job and give him some new inspired motivation to want to continue.
If he truly in his heart believes he does not want to do this anymore then I would support him in making the decision to get out of it and look for a different more rewarding profession. This job is a job you love to hate. He has to think about his own health, well being and of course you. Feeling like you are doing no good and going nowhere takes a huge toll on all listed above.
Best wishes to both of you

Goodluck and Godspeed

Answer 2

After 5 years I would imagine that your husband has had a decent chance to see what his job is about. If he does not want to continue in his current position, let him make the choice.
I will tell you this: two of the most dangerous enemies that law enforcement officers face are apathy and complacency. If he truly does not like his job, chances are that he will eventually face these two enemies, putting him (and his fellow officers) in even greater danger of injury.
It's his call. It's OK to encourage him, but understand that law enforcement isn't for everyone. Most veterans would agree: when a person no longer wants to be a LEO, it's time to get out, and there is no dishonor in doing so.
Good luck!

Answer 3

If someone hates their job its like getting up to be tortured every day. A change of scenery is usually the only thing that will help.

Answer 4

only he can do that...but he would be wise to listen to his wife..since shes the one who loves him and wants whats best for him...sometimes we get so caught up in thinking about only what we want and from our own point of view, we dont know the opportunities that are right in front of us when they are...patience might reward him also...