Do you think I've done the right thing?!!! What's a girl to do now?!?

Question

I'm in a long-distant relationship, or WAS. He hardly ever called me, I addressed the issue, but he told me that it was just how he is. I accepted it, until the calls became even more infrequent, until I didn't hear from him for two weeks, but I kept calling him every 3-4 days and he would answer. It occured to me that if I didn't call him, I would probably never hear from him. so I stopped calling, a week went by, and I thought, I'm putting an end to this, I called him only for him to tell me that he's at work and will call me later. 7 hours later, I decided to text him saying "You could have told me it's over, bin the stuff I left at your place, gud luck with univerisity". He didn't reply, and that was a week ago. Do you think I did the right thing?! He's on MSN, where he knows I go on most nights and hasn't blocked me, should I go online and let him see me or let him wonder where I am?!!

Answer 1

You did the right thing not to hurt you but he just was not into you don't try to contact him again it will just make you look desperate you deserve better what fun is a long distance relationship any ways?

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear this is, its hard when you decided to initiate a long distant relationship willing to be faithful and they dont respond the same. Well lets see, he used to call you every other day or not even at all right? Ok, well it seems that he does not want to be in a relationship. To many people its easy to say yeah lets be together long distance and what do they do, they go out and talk to other people! Of course i dont know if this is what hes doing but seems like he is. I think that its still hurting you because you have not received any closure yet. He has not had the decency to tell you that he wants out. In this case actions speak louder than words and his actions are I want out. He probably does not know how to tell you. Sweetie, you did the right thing, you ended and received your closure on your end. Dont wait for his, he doesnt have guts to tell you and you know what that only makes him look like an idiot. Be glad that this person is not in your life. Go out meet new people, dont dwell on him. like I said its hard when you dont get any verbal closure but look at his actions like closure.
I recenlty went thru the same thing, and let me tell you it hurts. But you will get over it, it just takes time. Stay busy, try not to think about him too much. I assure you when you least expect it somebody will walk into your life, and you wont even remember him... Best of Luck!
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Answer 3

Let him wonder. Seriously. From the way you've described this guy, he isn't actively seeking a break-up, but he also isn't holding up his end of the relationship. His behavior is borderline apathetic, and if he doesn't care either way then you are most definitely doing the right thing. Playing the waiting game might be hard, but you need to let him make the next move. And if he doesn't, then you'll know that he no longer wants to be with you and took a long, drawn out, childish approach to it: "Ignore her and eventually she'll go away." And if that's the case, you deserve better anyways. Good luck.

Answer 4

The only thing you did wrong was spell good as gud. You've done all the work. It's his turn to show some interest. He has to make the next contact. It sounds like he's already made a decision to end it, but just didn't bother to tell you.

Answer 5

Keep him guessing. You may have just let him off the hook which is what he wanted in the first place. It sounds to me like he is a bit of a wimp and just did not have the nerve. I hate it when they do that.

Answer 6

it's the distance.
try to remember that there can be no commitment until you actually meet....and perhaps not even then.
consider him a friend until something more definite happens.