Dont get me wrong, the sex is amazing.....but sometimes its 3 times a day....once in the morning, once after both of us are done with classes, and once before bed.......
Its exhausting sometimes, how can I tell him nicely that I dont want to have sex as often??
2007-02-07 05:51:19 · 33 answers · asked by shymegan008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just start saying no.
All (well, most) boys want sex three times a day, the rest of us just don't have a girl that is willing to do it so we cope with once a day, three time a week, whatever. He can cope too, the problem with your situation is that now he expects it so it is gonna take some behavior modification. Guys are pig headed and he will probably get his feeling hurt. Try scaling back slow and and build on that until you get to a level that you are happy with.
If he can't deal with that, then he wasn't that into you, he just wanted sex.
2007-02-07 05:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by muskrat_h8r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha yall sound like me and my girl at times but shes always up to it and usually her that wants it more, lil freak. well basically if yall have a good relationship not based on sex then he wudnt mind having sex all the time and wud wait till a more appropiate time. b/c well if he likes you for you then he wudnt care about how much yall have sex as long as he can just spend time with you and cuddle and do all the real fun stuff that actually makes a relationship well perfect in both yalls eyes. cuz honestly there are times when me and muh fiancee have sex for hours and hours straight day after day and there there are other times when we dont have sex for several weeks just becuase we in more of a mood to being sweet and cuddlie and just wanting to spend time and talk with each other instead of having sex. You need sex in a relationship to keep it going but it takes more then that to make the relationship meaningful
2007-02-07 06:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by borred223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him nicely that you are tired of the three times a day. If he's really your boyfriend, he'll back off and understand your needs. If he still insists on the multiple times after that, dump him! He's not your boyfriend for love, only sex.
Be careful. I hope you are protected. You sound too young to have to worry about getting pregnant this soon also.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 05:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by vgordon_90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid that if you tell him this (nicely or otherwise) that he will leave, and in all probability, he will, because he is using you for one thing and one thing only. Sex! If you don't believe this, tell him you are not interested in having it three times a day, or even three times a week for that matter, stick to that statement, and watch what happens. He will soon disappear. But then, do you really want some guy hanging around who only wants sex? I hope not!
2007-02-07 05:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him outside of the bedroom (very important not to tell him before, during, or after sex) when he is in a decent mood. Talk to him earnestly and explain that you want to tame it down because you are a bit tired. Be sure to let him know how much you do enjoy it just that you are not up to it so often.
2007-02-07 05:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jen of Eve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "Honey, I love you, but I'm not a rabbit. I can't keep this up (even if you can). Can we scale back to once a day?"
It's okay to tell him no now and then - you should only do it when you're BOTH in the mood, not just whenever he asks for it.
If he's a decent guy, he'll understand.
2007-02-07 05:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Umm what i did was made a piont of telling him I wasnt a sex object and maybe we should go to a movie or go out to dinner. Sex is great but if you get it too much you could seriously hurt yourself. Hope this helps just suggest going somewere and doing somthing thats not sexual
2007-02-07 05:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by Natasha0443 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The male ego is a wonderful thing just say "Baby you are wonderful but you are wearing me out I just can't take much more." He will love it and let you have a little rest. Also enjoy it while you can for some reason when they hit 30 it just goes down hill. we are at our peak and they are sliding off the edge of the cliff.
2007-02-07 05:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you really enjoy the time together ,but you really need to
get some rest. don`t push him away to much
then he will be on here saying my girlfriend and i used to have sex 3 times but now we....
understand? communication is the key.
2007-02-07 05:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by katana b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. If you don't say anything, then one day you're likely to snap and what you mean to say is going to come out very wrong and possibly cause damage in your relationship.
2007-02-07 05:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by Yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋