but now I am thinking it would be best to wait until my fiancees mother comes up after the baby gets here. She was never expecting any grandchildren as her son was in a gay relationship for 9 years (he identifies as bi), and she is very very excited about this. This is my third child so I was even thinking about just doing a get to know everyone small party at my place, she has not met my parents yet. She lives in Georgia and we are in Minnesota.
Should I do it afterwards or before, I can't decide, and my fiancee is no help, he says its up to you.
2007-02-07 05:49:24 · 16 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
this party is a non gift giving party. We are not asking for gifts of any kind, and are not registering. My best friend is throwing it for me, it is a non traditional and very low profile get together to do some crafty things for when they baby gets here, or after he gets here.
2007-02-07 06:49:21 · update #1
I think that is a wonderful and thoughtful idea to include her into your plans. There is nothing wrong with having a baby shower after the baby arrives. Good for you for thinking of others!Congrats on your new bundle!!!
2007-02-07 05:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want to wait until your fiancees mother can come, then do that. Otherwise, have two, or just make it a special time with her when she comes. I had two showers before my baby arrived, and one after (3 different sides of my family). But if you have one afterwards, make sure you wait a while- don't plan it too far in advanced and too close to after you have your baby. I ended up in a c-section after 19hrs of labor... so it was unexpected, and I was in a great deal of pain for a couple of months.... so we waited maybe 2 months before having the shower after my son was born.
Either way, enjoy it :) Good luck and congrats!
2007-02-07 15:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had a baby shower all set up for a friend of ours, but her baby decided she wanted to be there and came a couple weeks early. We cleared it w/ the mom and had kind of a coming out party for the baby. Of course the mom didn't get much of the attention (like she would have at a baby shower). But it was nice anyway.
2007-02-07 14:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by medleyc1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good to include her in your plans, and you will get more clothes for the baby afterwards...BUT the bonus of having the shower before the baby comes is you'll get the bare necessities before baby arrives! Wipes, diapers, vaseline, sleepers, receiving blankets, etc.
This is your decision. You can always just have a family get together after the baby is born too, that way both families can meet and mingle.
2007-02-07 14:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have both. Let your close friends give you a shower now, for friends. Then when Mom comes from Georgia, have a get acquainted/baby shower party for family members. Why not have the best of both worlds.
2007-02-07 14:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by sissyd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since it's a non-gift-giving party and you don't have any major necessities people will be filling, I'd wait and do the party afterward - a chance to meet your new bundle of joy and your mother-in-law. Congrats and all the best!
2007-02-07 15:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by martink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both! Have the regular babyshower while still pregant. This is really the most fun for everyone. Then just have a little luncheon at your place (catered of course.. heck I wouldn't want to throw a party just after giving birth!)
2007-02-07 14:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead and have your shower. There's tons of things you'll need before the baby comes and that way you'll grandma will have a better idea of what the baby still needs when she comes. Trust me, I know women like her and she's going to spend spend spend on that baby. You won't want to have a big shower after baby his here ~ to much commotion and you'll be tired. Just go ahead with it and let grandman do the spoiling when she gets there.
Good luck with your upcomming marrige and your new baby!!!!
2007-02-07 14:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in baby showers before th baby is boen. I would wait till after, so that everyone can meet your new bundle of joy. It makes sense after for youalso because your finacess mother will be there from out of town.
2007-02-07 14:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally..people don't throw themselves a shower so I don't know what to say. It's like demanding gifts and that's tacky. People who are close to you will end up giving a gift anyway after the baby arrives.
2007-02-07 14:19:51 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋