Ive told her how i feel about her. Shes just way too bossy for me. Everytime i threaten her that im gonna break up with her, she cries and tells me that she wanna kill herself and shell tell me that she wont do that again for like the hundredth timn. I ve been not happy and stressed for thhe past 2 years. I cannot do it. Should i cheat on her and tell her ? in this way im gonna end up being the cheater.
I cant do it , i need help ...especially from girls
2007-02-07 05:44:47 · 26 answers · asked by beeatch984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell her, and mean it this time! No one should have to live with that kind of stress. Just be honest, again, but like I said, mean it this time!
2007-02-07 05:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. There is no easy way out of this situation. This girl has you wrapped around her little finger. She's playing on your feelings. The only reason that she cries is because she is a control freak. Trust me on this. You said yourself that she's bossy, right? Well, she's trying to control you. Just call her up, tell her that you are tired of her messing with your life, and say (VERY FIRMLY) that no matter ho hard she cries you will not take her back. She will probably be very annoying for the next week or so, calling ever other minute and crying, but just don't pick up the phone when she does call.
I hope this helped. Good luck!
2007-02-07 13:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kate, the one and only 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't let her threaten you with suicide because more than likely she won't she will just move on with her life. Tell her how you feel and if she really loves you then she will respect your feelings and let you go. DO NOT CHEAT! that not only shows disrespect but also shows what kind of a person you are overall. Just explain your situation and i am 100% she won't understand at first but over time she will realize that you had no choice. Well good luck and i am sorry you had to experience the pain of falling out of love. It sucks i know!
2007-02-07 13:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off dude, grow a set! I'm pretty sure your nothing special and no girl is going to kill herself over you - it's just her way of being a spoiled brat and getting what she wants.
Second, you gotta tell this slampig straight out that you just don't wanna be tied down to one broad and that while you still think she's a pretty cool dame, you need to go out and experience other people.
Third, make sure when she starts to cry you console her and say something like, "Don't worry baby - it's not like our relationship is completely over - I just want to take a break and experience something else for awhile." Everyone knows this is one of the biggest lies ever, but it will still get you a hot dog mouth hug every couple of weeks when she feels lonely and needs someone to watch "Say Anything" with.
2007-02-07 13:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT CHEAT! This makes you a jerk! The best thing to do is be honest. She cries and says she will kill herself to keep you roped into the relationship. I doubt she will do this, and if you have any real suspicion she will actually do it, call 911 and tell them, they will take her somewhere where she can get help. Tell her you care for her but your heart isnt in the relationship anymore and its unfair to both of you to stay together. She might be upset and mad and hurt but when its all over and she has time to think about it she will appreciate the respectful way you did it and your honesty. Good luck to you. =)
2007-02-07 13:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be upfront and tell her the truth. If she is suicidal, then you might want to talk to a couple of her close friends and tell them AFTER talking with her that your concerned for her safety and see if they'll keep an eye on her. The biggest thing is to do so gently, don't place blame on her (especially), explain that your lives are moving apart, etc. DON'T cheat. That may or may not work.
2007-02-07 13:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by Yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl we can be pushy! BUT if your not happy then leave. I ve used the whole ill kill myself thing too. I never did it and i dont think she will either. We use that so guys like you will not leave. She is scared to be alone. If she really loves you shell let you go. I m really sorry to hear about you and her not working out but if its not ment to be its not ment to be. This situation could get alot worse if you dont stop it it doesnt sound healthy. But Please dont cheat on her you think its bad now when you cheat on a girl they find ways to make there life a living Hell. I hope this helps sorry if it doesnt
2007-02-07 13:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by Natasha0443 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her friends a heads up afterwards so they can be there for her, especially if you're really worried she's suicidal. 1-800-SUICIDE is a national suicide hotline. Try giving it to her or you can call to get advice about dealing with suicidal people. It's important to do what makes you happy, so don't stay in a relationship just for the other person's sake. Down the road, she'll thank you for it.
2007-02-07 14:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by cmellicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is hard. I have heard of girls like this. If I were you I would want to get away becuase she sounds like bad news, don't cheat that will make things worse, just tell her you don't feel the same way about her anymore, but do it in a nice way slowly and make sure your in a place were their arnt alot of people you know don't take her to a restrant becuase it is going to be hard for her. do it after valintines day too.. that would be hard for her. good luck hope it works out.
2007-02-07 13:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by Shelby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can then, bow out gracefully. Leave as a friend if you can. Tell her that you guys can still catch a movie every now and then, go eat at a fave restaurant.
Use that old line, "I need space, its not you but I need spaaaaaaaaaaaace."
And tell her that you're grateful for the time you spent together, that you'll always remember it.
I asked my former husband, "Would you rather remain married for marriage's sake OR would you rather we end this farce and remain friends?"
We're still friends.
2007-02-07 13:51:26 · answer #10 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Seriously dont do anything they sed ^
What you need to do is;
first really tell her how you feel again-emotionaly and then leave her to think about it..if that fails just do the things that really irritate her without touching her..the worst thing a lad can do is hit her..well the 2 worst things at hitting and tellling her that you dont think its working..thats such a common one!! dont shout and remember to apologise and everything you do, do it from the heart..AND DONT CHEAT!!! =D if all that fails your f**ked lol...[btw im on 14 hopethis helps] xx
2007-02-07 13:53:16 · answer #11 · answered by Xxsarah. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋