I am going to be attending a service for a co-worker's 18 year old son who I had never met. Many people from the office are going. I am wondering, is it appropriate etiquette for me to bring my significant other with me ? He has not met the co-worker.
2007-02-07 05:43:53 · 17 answers · asked by tmel123 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Absolutely, no one would think twice if you brought a spouse; today your significant other is just as acceptable.
You are there to show your support for your coworker. He/she will appreciate that you cared enough to show up.
2007-02-07 05:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rahab 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You know the coworker. This is a 50-50 question
If you bring: introduce your significant other to coworker but she will be giving you attention; you will be leaving the meal shortly after without giving the coworker your time during her sorrow because of the uncomfortable setting for your significant other, unless he is open minded...
If you do not bring: You will be free to mingle and grieve and talk
The important thing is to let the coworker know you are available to talk or support her during this time...Remember to call her or talk to her after the fact. After my dad died there was no follow up by anyone and the void was hard for the first couple of months. I had to shift my attention to my mom who needs the friendship and can count on someone being around...
2007-02-07 05:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, remember you are not attending the service to bring comfort to the deceased, rather to their living survivors. The more present will mean the more comfort extended. I once attended a funeral service for a 17 year old child. Not only was his Homeroom in attendance, his whole school was there, along with their parents and friends of the parents. The church was standing room only.
2007-02-07 05:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by fran t 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's fine. Unfortunately, I've attended several funerals last year, and my significant other came with me (to offer me moral support) whether he knew the people or not. There were 12. Two of the people I was really close to.
2007-02-07 05:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by allegretto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely acceptable. In six months your co-worker will not remember all the people that were there unless they check the guestbook.
2007-02-07 06:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by fair blue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say no since he has not met the co-worker, unless you were married. The grieving parent is in no position to have to put on a friendly face and greet strangers. It woud only be acceptable to bring your bf if you knew the deceased and he were lending emotional support or he had met the co-worker before. Also, your bf may be a little uncomfortable, not knowing anyone and not having any emotion to show.
2007-02-07 05:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Yes, it is okay for you to bring along your significant other.
Your coworker will be happy to see that you have shown up to show support during their time of need.
2007-02-07 06:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Unexpectedly George 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is appropriate to bring your b/f, g/f, spouse. It doesn't matter if they knew the deseased or the family. They are there in support of you. It's a couple's thing, that's what they do.
2007-02-07 05:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by cowboys21angel 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. A lot of people will probably bring their SOs, if just for support. This isn't a party or anything so it isn't as if he is crashing.
2007-02-07 08:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋