MY DAUGHTER IS JUST 6 YEARS OLD AND I SAW THAT SHE WROTE IN A BOOK OF HERS THAT "ANDRE IS PRITTY" THEN SHE WROTE "I LOVE ANDRE" WITH LITTLE HEARTS. IS THIS HARMLESS AND SHOULD I SAY ANYTHING TO HER, OR LEAVE IT ALONE AND VIEW IT AS INNOCENT??
2007-02-07 05:40:38 · 32 answers · asked by angelswife 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Of course it is innocent, don't frighten her by being paranoid.
2007-02-07 06:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is totally normal and harmless! My 6yo sometimes has trouble sleeping when thinking about a friend or a new 'crush.'
And, no don't leave it alone. Yes, say something. Talk to her about it. It is wonderful and you should share it with her and help her understand it. It will also help you understand how innocent it is so you can feel more comfortable about it. It is good to get in the habit of talking about these sorts of things now!
2007-02-07 08:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by msgquixo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Harmless and don't make an issue out of it or it WILL become an issue.
My daughter's friend had a crush on a friend of my son's so I just made sure the two of them weren't in the house at the same time. Poor Mark couldn't go anywhere without Meghan trailing behind. I never said a word to either of them & eventually Meghan moved on (grew up). I think alot of it had to do with her not having any brothers.
2007-02-07 05:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just an innocent little crush. When I was that age, I had crushes, and I NEVER thought about anything, like, making out with a boy or something along those lines. If she ends up calling him her boyfriend, I'd probably still say let them be, because no relationship at that age is serious.
2007-02-09 14:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by I am soooo splendiferous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a fondness that will fade until the next interesting person comes along... Don't be surprised if she gets crushes on girls too while she is so young. Kids are kids.
At that age they aren't having the ideas in their head that we have developed. (hormones & peer pressure are the culprits, don't get 'crazy' yet).
It's innocent let her enjoy the moment. No need to panic.
Save your worrying until she nears grade 7.
Just casually (through conversations) implant in her mind now what is appropriate behavior with boys... like holding hands and joking around and say kissing & hugging is for when you get married...a little extreme but it will begin to instill manners and morals and save you from being a grandparent way too early.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 05:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Gigi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you think is going on? She's only 6. Leave it alone and view it as innocent. It would also be nice if you let her talk about how she feels without trying to talk her out of it.
2007-02-07 06:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a preschool teacher and came across this problem often. It's my personal opinion that children should be children and while young children having "boyfriends" or "girlfriends" may be funny to some people, I don't want my children to think that it's okay. Shaming them is not the answer either. I simply told my children that we don't have boyfriends or girlfriend, we're all friends at school. Most were satisfied with this answer. If they weren't I would explain that grown ups could do this.
2007-02-07 05:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 6 yr old boy who says he has a lot of girlfriends. i asked him what that means and he says, very confused, "you know, my friends that are girls."
for the most part, it's harmless. most elementary school age kids don't know enough about that stuff...besides, they're supervised all day long and it's not like they can sneak out and go over to someone's house in the middle of the night...
i don't think you have anything to worry about. puppy love or she got it from television...
2007-02-07 10:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by texietoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nothing to worry about. Last year my grandson who was 7 at the time, gave a girl in his class a "special" valentines card. He said that she was his "girlfriend and another boy's girlfriend too. Then a few weeks later she was no longer his girlfriend but she was still the other boy's girlfriend. He had no hard feelings and now at the age of 8 he doesn't like girls anymore because they play with dolls. LOL
2007-02-07 05:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is perfectly normal. Don't make a big deal of it. Keep the lines of communication open, and if she talks about it, let her know you're not bothered by it, and ask her about Andre, is he nice, or cute. This could lead to open communication later when liking someone is more critical. Don't tease her.
2007-02-07 06:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is innocent so that's why you should view it as innocent. It is normal for children and adults to have crushes. I bet it's weird for you to deal with, but you have to understand that she's not attracted to him they way you're thinking, it's just little girl crush. Don't say anything to her about it. You can, however, say that she's not allowed to have a boyfriend until she is 18, lol. That's what my mom told me my whole life..and I listened!
2007-02-07 05:45:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋