First anniversary you give each other paper … then as each year progresses, a bigger gift is given. It seems that today’s commercial environment is compelling us to spend all the money on first dates (strangers) and then as the relationship gets familiar to spend less on gifts. How did this tradition get backwards?
2007-02-07 05:31:36 · 5 answers · asked by Giggly Giraffe 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
How did relationships get to be all about gifts, anyways? My husband and I have been married for 29 years, and during that time we've given each other some awesome gifts for occasions, or no occasions at all, and have sometimes been in financial straits where we couldn't afford gifts. And it doesn't matter. Man, we've given each other crazy gifts like an iguana lizard (him to me) and a Trader Vic's "Suffering Bastard" Tiki mug (me to him) and things that didn't cost a lot of money but were just fun.
Gifts are supposed to be from the heart, and are never an obligation; and the whole anniversary gift thing is a ramp invented by the greeting card/gift industry, IMO. A gift is never, ever an obligation in a relationship.
And keeping score (how many gifts, how expensive, etc.) is never a sign of a healthy relationship.
2007-02-07 06:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Karin C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I agree with your point about the gifts becoming better the longer you are with someone (since by then you probably take each other for granted more and truly do deserve the extra love) but those old ideas for gifts (paper, candlesticks, etc) are just outdated. Why would I want paper?
2007-02-07 07:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have to find the right guy, I suppose.
I still progress as the relationship progresses... it makes more sense to me.
2007-02-07 05:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by 27ridgeline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right.
2007-02-07 05:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the goal now a days is to get the kitty...
2007-02-07 05:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Stephen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋