My boyfriend has had a LOT going on; he got kicked out of his house, had to double up on classes to pass, is having some problems with money, and has just been really tired lately...he's been a little distant lately. He still says I love you when we get off the phone and still says Hi baby and hi beautiful and stuff...but our phone calls used to be an hour or longer and now they're 15 minutes and he doesn't talk much...I ask what's wrong and he says he's just tired. He still does nice things for me, but it's just not as much like he used to say he misses me all the time and we'd always talk about our future and how he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He doesn't do it as much now and when I ask him about it he says "You know I do, it's never going to change"...so am I just over reacting? Do guys really just get distant when they have a lot of stuff going on? Do you think he's changing his mind about the future or is there just so much going on in his mind right now??
2007-02-07 05:26:00 · 4 answers · asked by imperfectsimplicity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well we all have difficult times! that happens sometimes, but as long as it doesn't continue, he just has alot of stress! I thought the same thing about my bf that he was starting to distant himself from me and didn't care but it was because he was working alot and he was really tired and later I understood that I was being unfair by confronting him about it. As for the phone talking that happens you don't conversate as much because you spend more time with eachother and maybe this was when you were getting to know eachother more and now you guys pretty much know eachother. Maybe he just has alot of stress and is tired, I mean your fine, he's still assures he loves you so just be patient and try to understand him, well as long as it doesn't continue for a long period of time, if it does, TALK to him about it and let him know how you feel!!
2007-02-07 05:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes, Yes....This describes my husband for the last two weeks and it is getting really old! I know exactly how you feel. I think this is how they handle stress by shutting down. They have been taught to be strong and macho so they keep it all inside and don't want to open up and vent because they feel weak when they do this. I guess the best thing to do is be supportive and try talk to him about what is going on. Hang in there.
2007-02-07 05:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like he has a lot of troubles, especially going to school and having money problems, he might be trying to focus on that, so in order to ensure he will pass thats why he is distant. just be there for him when hes in trouble.
2007-02-07 05:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some do... I do...
it is a dangerous road to go down. If he deals with his problems and lets them go then he should be ok... if he harbors them... lets them fester... rehashes them... then he is headed down a dangerous destructive path.
the best you can do is let him know you are there for him if he wants to talk about it... and then drop it... don't push him... perhaps once in a while let him know... (not more than once a week)...
2007-02-07 05:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by AvidBeerDrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋