My Girlfriend Is A Workaholic, With No Time For Me. Should I Cheat On Her?

Question

I need some attention too, not just her career. There's a couple of girls I know that are interested in me. What should I do?

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Answer 1

dump your girlfriend!!! you should never cheat on your gf.. what is wrong with you

Answer 2

Oh my - why do you keep her as a girlfriend?You guys need to talk. Of course you need some attention! If this girl is so into her work, well than maybe she is not the right girl for you. Since she is so absorbed in her work, is she even aware of the lack of attention issue? Maybe she isn't. If she is and this has been discussed, it's time to tell her that you want to see other women. Don't just cheat on her. Let her know up front what is going on with your feelings. If you cheat on her and she finds out, it could be the end of her trust in you. You can't have much of a relationship based on lies. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find the attention you are seeking.

Answer 3

ABSOLUTELY NOT! Cheating is just a cowardly way out, you'll do it because you're too afraid to tell her how you feel. Is it just sex you are lacking or emotional availability? If she is working too much, then she is doing so to support her own security, maybe you want don't want to leave her or are afraid to talk to her and piss her off so you'll cheat to get what you want becasue you think she can take care of you? Maybe she's working so hard becasue you're not? I used to work over 10 hours a day. My bf was all that I found solace in at the end of long stressful days. If you take that away from her, you'll do irreversible harm and you shouldn't have to have that on your concious. Just be honest with her. She's probally caught between 2 hard choices and dealing with this herself. her job (i.e. security) and you - 2 things she's committing herself to and her choice will be hard. Why is she working so hard? Is there anything you can do to help take the load off? If she values your relationship and feelings more than her career, especailly if she knows you are at a point where you are thinking of going elsewhere, then you will find a way to compromise together that will make you and her happy. Otherwise, just be fair to her and don't make yourself the bad guy by cheating!

Answer 4

Why do you have to resort to cheating. If things don't work out then talk to her about discontinuing the relationship. Lack of time for each other is a valid reason to discontinue a relationship unless you are married and the extra work is for the betterment of the family. Once you brake up then you will be free to date whom ever you want. This way you look like a good person. You did not cheat. You tried your best but it did not work out.

Cheating is not a good word to bedescribed with. Cheating means deceitfull, willing to do anything for personal gain with disregards to the rules or previous agreement. A cheater is a dishonest person. Is that what you want to be?

Answer 5

First, I don't need to read up on your Blog.
Second, it is NEVER right to cheat on another person. This is unfair to everyone in the relationship.

You could talk to her about how you feel and that you would like her to spend more time with you. If she is unable to get away from her job, you can ask her if she is willing to be in an open relationship. If she is NOT willing to be in an open relationship, then call off the relationship and find someone else who can offer what you want and need in a relationship.

Answer 6

ABSOLUTELY NOT! just because your girlfriend in career oriented doesn't mean that you should hurt her by cheating on her. You both obviously have completely different goals for life. If you're really feeling the need to get some, "attention", break up with your girlfriend and find someone who has more time to spend with you. I'm sure it will hurt her feelings less if you do things this way. good luck.

Answer 7

NO WAY. Man listen if you feel this way your best bet is to tell her that you need more attention and she is not fulfilling what you need. If she does not work on the issue with you, then cut her loose. Cheating will put you in a bad spot. I know it might feel like she is cheating on you with her job. But remember, either she does not know you feel this way or she might be doing it for other reasons. Be a man and handle this the right way, if it doesn't work out you will be free to meet someone that will give you the time.

Answer 8

I think communication is key. Talk to your girlfriend, explain how you feel, and listen to what she has to say. If her work is at the top of her list and her relationship with you second or third or whatever, then I believe both should find a way to balance or finish the relationship. But do it good ways, first think about if you were the workaholic and how would you feel if she cheated on you.

Answer 9

Hold Up!! Please stop and think, Ok.. you need more attention and since your girlfriend is not there to give it to you, you might think of cheating... Ok, I'm not going to sit here and say dont do it, but please listen to me, advice coming from a female:

First of all have you communicated with her in regards to your feelings. How you believe that she is a workaholic and obvioulsy prefers work than you? Have you told her that this is causing a problem in your relationship? Have you told her that since she is not giving you the time of day you have thought about being with somebody else?
You need to communicate this with her after all that is what a relationship is, a mutual union between two individuals that I would think only want a relationship of two not more that two. Look if you have decided to post this question its because you are obvously thinking twice before doing it. Deep down you know and probably feel that by doing its not right. One thing that I have always felt and said to my friends and people that ask for advise is this; there is one thing that God gave us to comunicate our mouth and our voice. We need to share with people that we love when we are sad, happy, worried, confused and etc... if you feel this way please, please talk to her before you decide to cheat. If she ignores you and does not listen to you (sometimes we females have a hard time understanding but of course want to be undertood) then maybe this is not the person you should share your life with.
If you do cheat, prepare for the outcome, there are alot of negative things that can come from a cheating situation. Ask yourself is this something that I want to do to myself, her, and somebody else... Just think about it...

Answer 10

OK..i see we can not get rid of you..so here goes..OK so what if she is busy i am sure you knew that before you got with her..speak to her..communications is the key to a successful relation..let her know that you are lonely and that you guys need to spend some quality time together..i hate people who cheat..why treat you woman this way when you know that she is working trying to make a living..if she is not cheating on you then why do it to her...do you love her..is she the mother of your kids..always do right by each other....why do you think we have a low rate of successful relation..because all people think about is cheating and sex and getting off and so on..what about making it work with your partner..

Answer 11

I think you should ask her that before you do it just to be fair. Or breakup. Its really hurtful to her if you do. Why dont you pay some of her bills so that she can work less? I think you need to comunicate with her and work something out because if you really cared about her you would either leave or give her a chance to make things right. I know you are a man and you have needs to but the bills still got to get paid honey!