Everything is great & we love eachother. But last night I guess my sex drive is very high. We usually do it everyday...but last night when I though it was going to happy he said " Baby please don't take this the wrong way but I tired. He said...just because we don't do it for a day or 2 does not mean I don't want you or love you. He said he gets tired & sometimes feels like he has nothing left inside and it hurts somtimes. I certainly don't want sex to become routine or that he feels like he has to give it to me. He said you make me happy and I just don't want to do it just to do it...I love it when it happens unplanned. Do I make sense? So I just wanted to see if this was normal...that I should not feel unwanted. Thank you everyone :) I must mentioned he has mentioned the " let's take a little break from time to time before" I'm not a machine lol
2007-02-07 04:54:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has a point. It is better when it's unexpected. sit down and come to a compromise.
2007-02-07 04:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbell1688 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he was really tired. It happens! But if it happens more and more then something may be up. You mentioned he has said he has wanted to take a break-- I've heard those words before when I was in a relationship and then the sex started to die off and then so did the relationship. I'm not saying this will happen, but do you know why he wants a "break"? Breaks are breakups. I understand by doing it when it happens unplanned. You can't schedule sex for 7PM, ya know what I mean? Are you asking for sex? You shouldn't have to ask for sex, nor demand it. It should just happen naturally. If he is not having sex b/c he is not happy in your relationship then it is time for the both of you to have a talk. Sex is not everything baby.
2007-02-07 05:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its normal... In my last relationship I can remember a day or 2 where I was too tired for sex... but we usually made up for it with days where we had sex 2 or 3 times.
So don't worry too much about it, its just 1 day, the last thing you want to do is to talk him into having sex when he is tired and have him fall asleep in the middle of it... Then how unwanted would you feel.
2007-02-07 05:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have almost the exact same situation! My boyfriend and I have a great sex life but he looks at porn every chance he get the computer alone...even in the morning before work. I don't understand because he obviously isn't jerking off a 9 am in the living room, I walk back and forth to grab coffee so why would he just look at it? And just like you, my guy likes to watch big huge sloppy *** and breasts. I have a nice big butt and large breast but I have a tight firm young body, these women are older and dimply all over. Sometimes videos of just girls walking down the street in a pair of booty short. To me its so weird. I want to understand what it satisfies for him. I have confronted him about it but he is MAJORLY embarrassed about the porn he watches and doesn't like to open dialogue about it. Can any males give me some perspective. This sounds dumb but would it help it I played with my breast and *** more during sex try to imitate the porn he watches the best I can. I just don't want the fantasy to grow so large that 10 years down the line he get the urge to fulfill it, but I always worry about the worst. Case in point...this.
2016-03-29 09:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is normal! I mean he may not want to have sex all the time. A person may want it to come out natural not planned. Give it a rest because it may be that he is tired of having sex everday. Maybe he's tired of the sasme routine. Not to be nasty or anything but just try to 4 play. It may help him to give in. but try to rest a while and cuddle more to sleep. It may help a guy look at everything different
2007-02-07 05:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by rican mami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody gets tired at times & just needs to RELAX. Don't read anything into it other than he was tired.Take a break just cuddle somethings can be just as satisfing as the act itself but in different ways.Good Luck Young Lady & have A Great Day!
2007-02-07 05:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we women think all men want is sex. After 12 years with the same man, I can tell you that's not all they want. Sometimes they want to be held and to cuddle. Its not always about the sex. This is normal. Spontaneity is one of the greatest gifts you can have in a relationship. Good Luck and let it happen.
2007-02-07 05:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by lee911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His sex drive may not be as "highly active" as yours...I don't see anything wrong in him telling you that he's tired....or that he doesn't want sex to be a rutine. If he didn't want you, he wouldn't be with you....I think you should take him at his word. Sounds like he's being completely on the level with you.
2007-02-07 05:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by onecrazypeach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are asking this question because you are concearned and have every right to be. His sex drive is decreasing and this could be attributed to a number of reasons. Most commonly because he is tiring to a degree of you. This happens in almost all relationships so please do not be offended. You need to spice things up perhaps cover yourself in choclate and have him lick you from head to toe. Or try honey. Engage in foreplay and attempt to vary your sex to increase pleasure and variance. Put all your energy into blowing his mind and enjoy the rewards
2007-02-07 04:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Gael Garcia Bernal 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Awww, that's a nice guy. You just seem to have a higher sex drive than he. Just incase you may want to get your hormone levels checked. It could be medical. Just to make sure you should check. If not....great =P
2007-02-07 05:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys sex drive is controlled by TESTOSTERONE A HORMONE. GIRLS BY OESTROGEN. EACH GUYS SPERMS ARE EJACULATED IN EACH SEX ACT AND THE WHOLE THING EMPTIES OUT IN ABOUT 4 EJACULATIONS, IT TAKES ABOUT 72 HOURS TO BE REPLENISHED, MEN HAVE A LIMITED CAPACITY UNLIKE GIRLS SO U HAVE TO GIVE IT A BREAK DEPENDING ON EACH GUYS CAPACITY. WOMEN THEY SAY R LIKE CASINO SLOT MACHINES UNLIMITED CAPACITY HOPE YOU LL UNDERSTAND BOYS LIMITATIONS
ALSO AGE MATTERS VERY MUCH 4 BOYS THIS IS KNOWN AS SEXUAL EXHAUSTION GIVE IT TIME TO REPLENISH PL.
ALSO DEPENDS ON YEAR OF BIRTH MORE OF THAT NEXT TIME U ASK.
2007-02-07 05:07:09 · answer #11 · answered by KOHLI V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋