One of my guy friends and I get along really well, and I think we could be dating but he smokes.For me this is a real turn off.As I have not dated a smoker I don't know how bad it could be...But for some reason I don't want to give it a chance!! I don't smoke and find it gross!! So I am really torn!! Choose the smoker or just keep it as friends and ignore the sexual tension.
2007-02-07 04:39:10 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes it is your heath come befor a smoker or a drug.
2007-02-07 04:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been a smoker and a non-smoker in the relationship and every time I dated somebody who smoked and I didn't at the time ... I couldn't stand it ... the smell alone is horrible ... you really don't know how bad it is until you live with somebody that smokes or date somebody that does ... I say if you feel this strongly about smoking - don't date him ... if he wants to quit for you - great ... even better - it shows how much he wants to be with you ... but you also don't have the right to try and change him ... maybe mention to him one day - you know we would make such a great couple other than your dang smoking ... lol ... really sarcastic and see what he says ... at least you know where he stands ... if it's something you can deal with ( think long term also - second hand smoke, kids, dying young ... etc ... that come along with smoking ) and really sit down and figure out if you want to be with somebody like that or not and go from there ... good luck with whatever you choose ... !
2007-02-07 04:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a smoker I have to say it is OK not to date a smoker it is a really smelly bad habit. Some people say kissing a smoker is like kissing an ashtray. On the other hand if the sexual tension is that strong take him home and put him in the shower and give him a tooth brush. He will then be good to go temporarly; If everything is just right he may quit with a minimum of encouragement.
2007-02-07 04:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy, and I also just can't date girls that smoke. I've tried a few times, and I think it just kills the physical aspect of the relationship. However, I bet if you hooked up with the guy and dealt with it for the first couple of dates, you could explain the situation and try to get him to quit (at least while he's around you).
2007-02-07 04:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and this guy are friends then be honest to him tell him you would like to go on a date with him but you would appreciate it if he did not smoke when in your company, you may be surprised to see that he will do that and just think about it ,if it all turns out ok maybe you will get him to stop smoking
Good Luck
always be honest
2007-02-07 04:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by asnowbird1961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a smoker once (I'm a nonsmoker) and it was totally gross every time we kissed. For me, it was something I couldn't get over and we ended up breaking up. We were in the same situation - a lot of sexual tension, but I just couldn't get past the smoky taste.
2007-02-07 04:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a smoker or an idiot would tell you to date this person either way just because "they could be your prince charming". In the real world its about what qualities your mate must possess and what faults they have that you can live with. if you want to date him and you can live with his mouth tasting like an ashtray and him smelling like smoke 24/7 then try to date him. if you cant stand someone who smells like smoke or cant imagine ever kissing an ashtray then stay friends. its all about what you need to have and what you can live with. try kissing him before you date him see if you like it.
2007-02-07 05:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by walstib_710 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the sexual tension, it will go away in time. If you find it really gross, you risk ruining the friendship by dating, because more than likely you will break up...And smokers, even if they don't smoke around you, the smell of cigarattes tends to cling on to hair clothes, breath, furniture and you will be able to smell it in this guys apartment, even if he doesn't smoke inside his apt. It is a nasty little habit...and you can't change him.
2007-02-07 04:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by onecrazypeach 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's absolutely okay. If you're not comfortable with it, and you want to date seriously, then you'll find yourself either resenting him for making you have to be around the smell and all the gross things you hate about it, or the fact that he won't quit. Or else he will resent you for wanting him to quit or not wanting to be around him. Also, I simply cannot kiss someone with cigareete breath. It makes me gag.
Like you I tried. I told myself I was being snobbish or whatever, and that it wasn't fair to the guy. But... when it comes down to it, I have to be comfortable. And if things were to get really serious, I don't want my house, my clothes, my body, my kids whatever, smelling like smoke and risking my OWN health to be around the smoker all the time.
2007-02-07 04:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Marlietta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God you are really stupid.. it seems that you have already made up your mind so why ask the stupid question? First, if you really find the act of smoking disgusting then just give your guy a break... he could have been thinking until now that you are an open-minded and honest person which you aren't. Second, it is a part of your discretion who to date, but i guess, you don't know that too.
2007-02-07 04:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by koishii-kun 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you dont like smokers, just stay friends. I as well hate smoking and my girlfriend hates it too. Its perfectly natural to not want to date anyone who smokes. everyone has their own opinions about what they want in a guy/girl
2007-02-07 04:41:58 · answer #11 · answered by The J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋