I moved in with my boyfriend about a month ago and he already had a guy roommate. This didnt really bother me then cuz i know the guy and hes a pretty good/nice guy although he is a little full of himself. Well after living here for a little while ive learned that his roommate likes to have friends over almost every night and they're always drinking. Dont get me wrong..alcohol is good but every night? im not much of a partier..but oh well. So then the next day he doesnt clean up the beers or the mess, doenst do dishes or any other cleaning. My boyfriend and I do ALL of that. I dont know how to tell my boyfriend all of this because my boyfriend is a great guy/great friend and all of this doesnt bother him cuz he used to be like that. Oh, and our roommate had friends over last weekend and they got wasted and one of the guys just walks into our room in the middle of the night (4:30 am!) and just lays down on our futon and goes to sleep! Would this bother anyone else? And what should i do?
2007-02-07 04:34:25 · 10 answers · asked by michakitty87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell your boyfriend to act like he's got a pair.... that nice guy sh** only goes so far......I'll be damned if me or my lady is going to be picking up after his mess.
someone would have gotten smacked walking in my room at 4 in the damn morning.
2007-02-07 04:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by RedEye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your boyfriend about it. It would really bother me, and not just the random person stumbling into the room! I hate cleaning up after someone else, unless they can't.
Tell your BF that it bothers you that the other roommate isn't being responsible.
In the meantime, buy a lock for your bedroom door! :) Keep the drunkies out! haha
2007-02-07 04:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this would bother the heck outta me. Your boyfriend needs to put his foot down, lay down some boundaries and rules. You're new to the living situation, so it would be weird for you and it would make you feel like they thought you moved in and took over and just started changing things. Your boyfriend needs to tell the roomie that this behavior is unacceptable. If your boyfriend joined in this lifestyle before you, this is not going to be easy at all. Be careful that no one puts you in the middle
2007-02-07 04:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his azz out the door or either get a new place just the two of you. It sounds like that is not going to change and if it bothers you this much now (and it should) you will really go crazy a few months down the road.
2007-02-07 04:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kwijibo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much you can do besides stop cleaning up for them and get paper plates and plastic cups. You can tell your boyfriend how you feel and if he wants to keep doing it then fine let him. As far as someone walking in my room at 4 in the morning i would fu#$ them up. Talk to your roommate that is jus plain ignorance.
2007-02-07 04:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get a locking knob or at least a slide lock for your bedroom door. Its your private area and no one should be in there unless they are invited.
Second of all, if this was the situation before you moved in, dont fuss about it to your bf. Maybe suggest getting your own place together and leave the roommie there to find someone who shares his piggish ways. lol
Good luck hun.
2007-02-07 04:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You moved in to the wrong kind of situation. If you want to be all domerstic and "live" w/your bf then get your own place. This is what young people do, this is how young poeple behave. Sound just like when I was in college.
2007-02-07 04:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah this would bother me, your bf's friend should have repesct for others as well as himself, he has to understand that he isn't the only person that lives there, you and your bf should tell him and put your foot down
2007-02-07 04:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by crunkests 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boyfriend to warn his friend, his not the only one staying in that room, he should be a little more considerate to his roommate... you don't have to tolerate him, you have to do something... tell him to have a little more respect... heehhe...
good luck!
2007-02-07 04:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! But you need to know if you're not the rent payer you're not the boss.
2007-02-07 04:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋