2007-02-07 04:31:19 · 36 answers · asked by ♥Jesse♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Love them just as I had before they told me or I found out. There is nothing wrong with who they are and there is nothing you can do to change them.
And I would make sure they knew that I still loved them and the only thing that changed would be the way I got grandkidos =D
2007-02-07 04:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by blueangeleyes1975 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I absolutely agree with everyone else, Love your child no matter what. They can't help who they love. I have a lot of friends who are gay or just confused and go for both sexes. I even tried dating other girls when i was about 15-16 and decided it wasn't for me. Eventually they will find themselves. I have let lots of my friends stay with me because their parents were inconsiderate and didn't want them around because of their sexual orientation. I say you two sit down and talk, ask whatever questions it is you need to ask, but if there is a question they are not ready to answer, don't make them answer it. Give your child time to warm up about letting you know. Let them know you love them no matter what and you should support your child in everything they do as long as it doesn't hurt them.
2007-02-07 04:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by dark_kitty1 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, I'd say "I love you unconditionally". I'd let him/her know it doesn't make a difference to me. I would encourage him/her to come to me with problems.
People need to realize that being gay isn't a choice. It's how we're made. It's not an easy life. Gays are discriminated against, there are fewer people to choose partners from and there are a lot of ignorant people out there. Just love your child and don't make excuses.
2007-02-07 04:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would love my child either way, gay or not, the love for a child is unconditional, no matter what their oreintaion. God decided that how your child was going to be, and there is no way around gods great plan.
2007-02-07 04:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
We have 3 daughters and a son. Our son is 25 years old. He is creative, talented in art and music, and he is a hard-worker. He is thoughtful, responsible, and gentle. He has a way with children and old people. His siblings love him as do both his father and I. Oh, yeah, I nearly forgot, he is gay. When our son "came out" to us, we were devastated at first. But, as the years have gone by, we have come to the realization that we love our son as much now as we did before he told us he was gay. He is not our gay son, but simply our son. Most of our devastation stemmed from the loss we felt. Many of our hopes and dreams for our son were centered on how his life would affect us. We have gone through a bit of mourning as we struggle with knowing that a daughter-in-law is not likely to be added to our family nor will it be likely that he will pass his genes on to a future generation. We still go through times when we wonder "where did we go wrong". But, as we communicate openly with each other, we know there is no blame, that we have a choice to make in how we relate to our son. If my husband and I had a choice, we would not choose for our son to be gay. But, it is not our choice. Our choice is how to deal with who our son is and we have chosen to love him even if we don't agree with everything he does. ADDED: We don't agree with everything our daughters do either.
2007-02-07 04:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there, am there. Short simple answer noone can beat.
Love Them, Support them, listen to them , with all your heart. Nomatter what the world brings , that person will always be your baby, your son or your daughter. And nothing I can fathom could ever change that love. If your looking for more information , on what to say , or how to cope , I seriously reccomend talking to a profesional yourself to whom you can give all the details and learn some personal coping skills. There is never shame in asking for help to better ones self.
2007-02-07 04:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by EGOman 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love the child.
2007-02-07 04:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Glenda H 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i would love them no matter what. i would ask to meet their partner and get to know them. my best friend is a lesbian. it is what ever makes them happy and that all that matters. I hope the best for my kids and if they want to be gay then let them. there is no reason to make them mad at you and not want them to talk to you ever because you dont approve of their life choices. now if they were to be addicted to drugs or anything else then that would be a different story. love your children no matter what.
2007-02-07 07:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my brother-in-law...his son "came out" to my husband (his uncle) first...he is still the wonderful person he was before we knew for sure...we love him, accept him, treat him like we always have....same as if he had told us anything else about himself...We do not think of him as our "gay" nephew...he's just our nephew..we love him and that's it...he doesn't ask us what we do on the bedroom and we don't ask (or judge him by) what he does...it's not our business. There is soooo much more to him than being gay...I wish all families could accept and love one another without condition as ours does...
2007-02-07 04:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Toots 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have no children, but I think in my heart that I would just deal with it.
My personal feelings towards gays is that it is something they can't help and that it is ok to be gay.
I have gay friends and treat them the same as anyone else.
I don't think you should make your child feel bad about it or make them ashamed of who they are.
Just like the way you feel heterosexual and you can't help it, gays can't help how they feel.
2007-02-07 04:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by syznotch 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋