my 23 month old is driving me crazy he wont listen does what he wants and if u punish him he freaks out?

Question

my son gets into everything u tell him no and he wont stop he hits and kicks, pinches punches throws things.and he just rips everything apart, he wont even be put in a stroller or shopping cart he just throws a down and out fit in front of everyone *youd swear he was being beat*and u cant even turn your head for 30 seconds and hes completely gone and rampaging though everything. ive never seen anything like it before in my life and everyone else tells me that also. ive tried everything i can think of to get him to listen. whipping, not whipping, talking to him, using a stern voice, not using a stern voice, time outs, slapping his hand,

Answer 1

you can always take away a favorite toy and put it somewhere he will see it and remember why he can't play with it. or take away tv show privileges. although my son was 2 1/2 years old i'm not sure if he totally understood why he couldn't watch his tv shows but it seemed to work. spanking and timeouts didn't work for mine either. he was so hard headed he would rather sit in time out forever then be good. there is hope though. mine is four now and he still has his moments. i know people say its the terrible twos but i know it had to be something more then that. hope this helps.

Answer 2

You should ALWAYS carry your keys if you are leaving the house ... and you should ALWAYS take your son with you, even if you are just going to the mailbox. You can NOT 'punish' a 23 month old for locking the door ... he's too young to know how to do that, and if you did get locked out it was because you left the 'lock' on when you left and he just closed the door. He may enjoy the doorbell, so what you should do is get a friend who can be at the door while you are inside with your son and have the friend make the door 'go ding dong' several times and enjoy that with your son. You should also ANSWER the door EVERY TIME the door goes ding dong, so that your son gets the idea that if someone is 'ringing the bell' the door needs to be 'answered' or at least someone needs to find out WHY the doorbell is being rung. This is a good opportunity for teaching, and is NOT a reason to punish any child, spiritually or not.

Answer 3

I can see your problem right in your question.... you are not consistent with your discipline.

Hitting is not an option here - don't spank or slap his hand or any form of that. This is showing this is an appropriate way to deal with things, therefore he is hitting, kicking, pinching, etc.

Time outs are your best bet. As long as you are persistent and consistent! This is absolutely key. It will be very rough for a few days, but once he realizes that you are not budging, his behavior will steadily improve.

Taking away toys in response to naughty behavior, and earning them back when good is a good one, too.

When he acts up in public, drop everything - pick him up and march him out of the store and to your car without saying a word. Do the timeout there. I know this will be very difficult, as a mom you have things that need to be done, but it will be much better for you all in the long run.

As for him running off - this is dangerous! I always liked those wrist to wrist tethers - they are stretchy and are velcro attached, so he has some lead, but you can still ensure he stays at a safe proximity to you.

I must reiterate - CONSISTENCY IS KEY!

Answer 4

Kids are like that at that age... my cousin's little girl was (though not quite THAT bad)........... all you can really do when they pick up something they shouldn't is give them a gentle slap on the hand, while firmly saying "No! Don't Touch!".

When they throw a tantrum in public, the only real option is to remember you're bigger than he is, and just strap him into his stroller whether he likes it or not (even though doing so is like trying to wrestle with an octopus) and carry on oblivious to the tantrum...... basically just let him ride it out, paying no attention to it until he's got bored with it......... keep it up, and he should start learning he won't get what he wants if he keeps acting up.

Round the house...... same deal, just put him in a playpen (no toys), and just ride out the tantrum paying no attention to it.

You might also want to get him checked out for hyperactivity disorders.

Answer 5

First the words 23 month old and act right don't go together at all! First step back and look at him. I mean really look at him. Now breath. He is feeding off of your anger and he is testing you to see what REALLY bothers you ( this is his job and he is good at it) your job is to NOT let him see you sweat. You are the parent, he is the child. When he throws a tantrum, out a pillow by his head and let him go for it. When he stomps stomp with him (it's no fun for him if you are having fun) Two year olds SMELL fear. If it is at all possible start to punish his bad behavior by taking away what makes him happy. He is bad and you have to go to the store, leave him with someone and say " Mom's going to the store, you were bad so you can't go" and MEAN IT. Walk away and go to the store. He will not take you seriously if you are just a bunch of talk.
Two's are easy compared to what will happen at 13 if you do not stand your ground now. Remember show no fear. Mean what you say. Always follow up with I love you whatever, but I'm a little sad with you right now. Be the parent.

Answer 6

You think the twos are terrible? Wait till he's three or four and talking back and absolutely refusing to listen to anything you say!

It's hard to discipline a two-yr-old. Ignore most of the bad behavior and reward the good. If he acts out every time you go shopping, maybe a babysitter would be a good idea for a while.

Answer 7

You need to start giving him time outs. If he refuses to stay, you need to start taking things he likes away and MEAN IT. Make him be good to get them back over time.

As far as doing this out in public, I'd just pick him up, take him out to the car, strap him in and head home. I know you think you can't do this with a shopping cart full of food, but if you just ask them to put your cart in cold storage and you'll be back later to get your items they will do it. Your kid needs to learn that his behavior will not be tolerated and be consistent with discipline. You have to pick a punishment and use it each and every time.

Answer 8

Might I suggest the series of books LOVE AND LOGIC by Dr Fay. No spanking involved and it has completely changed our daughter and the way I dicipline. Parenting can actually be super easy and even fun.

Answer 9

You need to be more firm. Take toys away from him and dont let him do his favorite things for a lil while. Sometimes you need more than woopens to discipline.

Answer 10

Welcome to the Terrible 2's! If you really need that bad of help call SUPERNANNY! or NANNY 911!