How long should we wait and how would we tell everyone (parents, friends, family, etc.)
2007-02-07 04:16:17 · 34 answers · asked by SMD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm in college, I'm a freshman
2007-02-07 04:34:51 · update #1
What's the hurry to become Parents? You are both young yet and have plenty of time for that. Have fun...enjoy your freedom. I have 3 kids 2 grown and an adopted grandson that's 5. I can tell you first hand, wait till you get an education, and good jobs so you can take care of a child better.
2007-02-07 04:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by lady_godiva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until I graduate, have a good steady job and money in the bank. Babies are expensive. Basically, not until you are 25 or older. A baby is a blessing and a HUGE financial responsibility...When I found out I was pregnant with my son, I called my parents and brother and basically sent everybody else an e-mail....
2007-02-07 04:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by onecrazypeach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you both should wait until both of you are out of school and not jump into having kids. Remember the kids are affected more than the parents in the long run.
This will give you both time to mature and get things ready for when you are ready for a baby.
I would think that after you're both done with school(at least HS) it will be easier to tell family and friends.
2007-02-07 04:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Triskelion 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WAIT!!! You are most likely NOT financially capable of raising a family, supporting a psuedo-wife, and a newborn. Babies cost a lot of money, at least $2500 just for the hospital delivery visit. Financial strain ruins too many relationships each year. Get married, enjoy each other, and save money before trying to raise a family.
2007-02-07 04:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Emmy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait! Having a baby is really hard, do you have nieces or nephews?? try having them for about a week then decide if you do or not! Babies are adorable but after you have them you don't have time for anything! are you ready to not have time with eachother!? Be smart and wait till your both ready and have finished school!! Do you really want to hear loud crying while your trying to concentrate on homework or studying for a test!
2007-02-07 04:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you?
I recommend waiting if you two have not graduated from college or high school yet.
It's alright to plan and have a baby if you two are both in graduate school or both working and making money post-college.
If you two want to marry each other in the near future, then having a baby is not a bad idea either.
2007-02-07 04:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Charlotte Girl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should be married for a few years at least before having children. They need a LOT of stability to be healthy. I have 2 children that I had fairly early in life. If I could do it over, I would wait until my early 30s to have my first baby. If you decide to wait, you can change your mind. If you have a baby now, you can't.
2007-02-07 04:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow, honestly, I dont know the whole situation, when you mean school , do u mean grade level schools or college?
honestly You are still young I assume, You have alot more time to make a family, I would finish with your education 1st, & then possiable marriage would be a good idea, and respectable for your family and God, i dont know your faith or beliefs, forgive dont mean to offend.
I would say wait and then later when your thru with school, I would say go for it,
children are alot of responsbitly and fianical assistance and stable income. ect,
They are a blessing yes, however if your in school and working to afford the baby or children, your not going to have the time to enjoy them much and they grow up very fast, while your working or in school, you will miss things you wont want to miss, like their 1st baby steps ect,
i understand wanting to have a baby, and thats good, its part of human nature, take care
2007-02-07 04:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it depends if you want to graduate so that you guys can have a nice job and get the baby a bunch of things and have a nice home. or if you just want to have the baby and live with someone or not even together since you guys are still in school. how to tell all you friends, family, and ect just say i have goods news on my behalf but im not sure if it is good news for you guys but my girlfriend is having a baby.......then if they dont like that then i dont know what to tell you sorry............
2007-02-07 04:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by triway hottie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should wait until you are married for the sake of the child. This child needs a stable home enviroment and if you are not married, then they can't have that. That is why our kids are so screwed up, because they don't have stable home lives anymore. If you don't think that you are ready to get married, then you are certainly not ready to start a family. If you don't think that you want to spend the rest of your life married to this woman, then why would you want he to be the mother of your child?
Get married, then if you think that you can support a child, then do it. Countless people have finished their degrees after they have had children. You can make it work.
2007-02-07 04:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋