I am dating this guy and have een for 4 months. He kisses me and and stuff, but only when I make the first move... I dont know how to make him or convince him to do it first, I hate being the only one. Thanks
2007-02-07 04:16:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like Jason is a little timid, but you had to have known that before you started dating exclusively. Something about his timidity turned you on enough to choose to be with him. However, I know exactly what you mean, a woman wants to be "taken" to feel desirable. My fiance is by no means timid, but I did tell him he could be more aggressive with me in bed - and he listened. Just talk to your bf and tell him what your needs are. If he can supply them he will - but it could be he just can't and you will either have to accept him for who he is or move on to someone who can give you what you want. You have to decide what's more important. Good luck.
2007-02-07 04:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, well first understand that using words like "Make Him" or "Convince Him" Will put you in the wrong state of mind before you even get started. Men do not want to be forced to do anything. We will close off if we feel threatened. It's been four months and he hasn't "Jumped your bones".
OK I will tell you what's going on here. I bet what you forgot to mention is that he just got out of a long term relationship, before he started dating you. Men who have felt (And I have been there too) like they have been drug through the mud with their previous relationship will be reluctant to dive into intimate touching and emotions right away. Think of it this way, the four months you have been with him have been in that personal space time for him... You know the time you always spend by yourself after getting out of a tough relationship. He's out of gas right now. You can either:
Option 1. Wait a little longer and see if he gets himself together. Do not pressure him if you choose this option. Let things gradually develop. Men in this position always feel like going further with making the first move puts the pressure back on them, and they start flashing back to what it was like when they were in thier past relationship.
Option 2. Decide you have waited long enough and confront him with your issues. You might not like what you hear. Be prepared to sacrifice the relationship if you try this one.
2007-02-07 12:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by ariesespo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't comfortable with you yet after four months either he just doesn't have it or for some reason he believes that if he makes a move whether a kiss or pinching your *** you are gonna get upset with it. If you are ok with him groping, kissing, fondling and making the first move tell him you want him to start doing those things, if he still doesn't after you tell him let him go.
2007-02-07 12:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by PrettyEskimo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been four months and he hasnt asked you for sex? Wow! What planet is he from? I usually cant be around a guy for 4 minutes without trying to make some comment or suggestion that he wants some. Are you sure he's feeling you? I would just be up front about it. It works everytime.Talk sexy to him.Tell him your feeling "excited" and use body language and give him that look. If he doesnt go for it he's gay!
2007-02-07 12:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't make the first move. Wait and see if he does it first.
2007-02-07 12:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by 3120johnsons@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strip for him and he will make a move on you, guaranteed!
2007-02-07 14:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lonely Bàstard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him maybe he doesnt want to disrespect you
2007-02-07 12:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by paul lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋