As a parent I want to know why do we ignore our kids behavior when we know they are bad?

Question

We know that they will grow up to create problems in society but we spoil and ignore the obvious signs I believe that we should try to fix the problem before assuming society should take care of them

Answer 1

A parent that ignores their kids bad behavior is in essence allowing their child to grow up bad. I'll be 40 this year, I have 4 children of my own and 3 step children. If your thinking society will take care of them when their older , I see it one of two ways , Jail or Dead. There is nothing wrong with firm consistant discipline when required. Consistancy is very very important. Children need to learn action and consequences, and I believe if a punishment is to work it needs to be immediate and severe. Now I'm not saying beat your child, there are other ways to severly punish. But remember a punishment is supposed to be the deterent so it has to be something the child realy does not like. And I am not opposed to an ocasional swat on the hind end when required. I think today the problem is that parents believe it is more of a punishment to them to punish their child then it is to the child, for instance, take their video game away for a week. Oh man then the kid will be bugging me because they are board and out in the living room bugging me instead of in their room playing quietly. Well .... NO... don't allow that either, the punishment is the childs not yours and if it seems like its yours you need to reevaluate why you feel that way and correct that problem, but not by not imposing the punishment. So I guess the short answer is , it's inconvienient to have to deal with and punish children and with the stigma against spanking etc, parents feel a helplessness. I'll ask a question and answer it. Whose in charge ? Answer , the parent

Answer 2

It all depends on what you mean by bad behavior. Everyone sees bad behavior differently, some see it as no big deal while others see it a problem. There is no set guideline that parents have to follow, it's their interpretation.
If it is going to cause the child difficulty in the future ( they don't fit in, they disrupt others, they don't listen to authority, they hurt others (physically or emotionally), they're disrespectful, rude etc.), then it should be addressed promptly.
However children learn from the parents, it is up the parents to be up on what's acceptable and what's not. What they chose to do is up to them, to be a responsible parent they must be willing seek what is best for their child in today's society and not let society raise them. Anything less and it's just laziness and bad parenting.

Answer 3

If a parent ignores a child's bad behavior it's because they don't feel like dealing with it to correct it.
To fix it takes effort and to be honest, some parents care more about themselves and what they are doing rather than helping their child learn how to behave correctly.

Answer 4

I am a teacher, and I can tell you that two out of every five parents who show for a conference are in total denial about their child's discipline . Even when presented with documentation and witnesses, they are adamant that their child is innocent. A few years later, when that child is hauled into the juvenile courts or assigned to boot camp, the parents are very quick to blame....you guessed it....... the school system!!!

Answer 5

Because they want children but not the responsibility that comes with them and they feel it builds self esteem to allow a child to "find themselves" through all sorts of sordid and rude behaviour. I know from recent family experience of watching some people allow their child to suffer no consequences for his actions to take up for him to baby him to ignore him by plying him with video games and music and movies and money to just get out of their hair.Now that child is in jail because he slowly worked his way up to federal offenses and the parents are suffering dearly for their mistakes of not teaching their child to act like a responsible person...it's extremely sad.

Answer 6

I don't! All 6 of my kids are well behaved little ladies and gentlmen. I spoil them to a certain extent but only when they've earned it!

Alot of parents nowadays are just too lazy and laid back! They just don't want to have to be bothered with actually having to raise their kids right!

Answer 7

People ignore it because it's MUCH easier to ignore any difficult issues and let the school or someone one else deal with it. It's so much harder to actually be involved in raising competent, healthy, productive people. It requires parents' full attention. It requires looking at yourself in the mirror and seeing your own faults. It requires self-sacrifice. It requires creativity. Raising kids is the hardest thing to do........unfortunately, there are kids born to people who are the last people on earth who should be reproducing.

Answer 8

Because too many parents are trying to be friends with their
kids when they should be the parents and play bad guy
once awhile. Kids need discipline..

Answer 9

Parents tend to ignore their childrens bad behaviour because it is easier... and they probably figure that if you don't pay attention then the child will stop misbehaving and move onto something else.

Answer 10

sometimes ignoring the behaviour is more effective then giving it attention. also we are so busy now adays we dont want to deal with it and we just let the behaviour slide so we can spend the good time with our kids instead of spending what little time we have punishing them