How difficult is it for a woman with ONE kid to find a mate? I've been alone for almost 3 years and while I've made connections with men, they tend to bolt on a serious commitment due to my son. His dad on the other hand can't stop getting women even though he now has 3 kids with 3 women!!!
Are there brave men who aren't afraid of the single mother? And how do I know early on so I don't waste another 3 years on scared men?
2007-02-07 04:08:37 · 18 answers · asked by Lotus Phoenix 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was lucky ... I found a great guy after 3 years of being a single parent ... with one of my previous boyfriends passing away in a car accident ... it's hard trying to explain that to the little one ... anyway you have to trust your gut instinct from the get go ... be selective with who you sleep with ... it's hard but you really have to be smart about who you date ... if you want somebody to stick around and be there for you and your son ... he has to be mature enough, financially able to take care of himself first ... want the same things in life as you, is a good role model ( can't be bringing home thugs or drug dealers and expect your son not to pick up on things ) not saying you do ... make sure he tries to make a connection with your son after awhile ... it's not that hard once you've found the right guy ... everything should be easier not harder when you start dating somebody - he should want to help you out even if you don't need it ... good luck ... hope you find somebody soon ... you're not wasting your time either - you're just being selective and smart ... oh yeah and after reading some answers - I didn't go looking for older men either - mine is about 3 1/2 years younger ... and more mature than any guy I've ever been with ... every situation is different - you'll find your man one day ... !
2007-02-07 04:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the men aren't the issue. Continue to be picky, and the guys that are to scared to stick around you don't want that kind of man any way. People are hurting children for no reason at all. If you think it's hard finding a man with 1 child imagine 4&5 kids, trying to find a man, let alone a good man.
2007-02-07 04:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just aren't ready to be an instant dad. There are women that are the same. I have a kid and it's starting to get funny watching them stumble all over thierselves to get away. I have found that it's better to find someone who already has a child. They know what's up from the get go. JJust make sure you tell them about your child in the beginning so you don't get your hopes up.
2007-02-07 04:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by D.Y. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relationship a unmarried parent is a poor concept: a million) the hot b/f or g/f will continuously be secondary, at staggering and the youngster takes precedence, because it really is going to be, even though it potential they'll be getting a lot less from a unmarried parent than they could in a relationship with someone devoid of a baby. 2) planning dates is extra problematic b/c babysitter plans should be made 3) there is continuously the chance that the Dad will re-seem and then continuously be in both one among your lives. 4) The b/f or g/f is now dealing with the potential of dropping 2 human beings he/she receives connected to if the relationship ends and he/she has greater a relationship with the youngster 5) The g/f or b/f ought to be able to commence appearing like a parent even nonetheless they quite are not one. relationship a unmarried parent is something i'd propose my acquaintances adversarial to doing.
2016-11-25 23:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next guy u get wit just tell them up front that u have a kid and if they have a problem with that, or if they are kinda iffy about it then get the steppin so u wont waste anymore time on them. U should get a older guy if u haven't already. They seem to deal with it better. Ur brave man is out there its just goin to take some time and some dating to get to em.
2007-02-07 04:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by gurllucky7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh,reading your question was like i was reading something that i wrote myself. BUT that was about a year ago. i am also a single parent (divorced) of three kids. it's been four years and i FINALLY found a guy that truly wants to date me and doesn't care if i have kids (and three is a lot more to deal with than one). i dated around for the first three years after my divorce. these guys did not want to get serious because i am a mom. it sounds so cliche...but let me tell you when i found a guy that is perfect for me and my kids. When i was not looking!!! i decided after many jerks to just focus on my new house and my three kids. that's when mike showed up. he is a single dad with custody of his son. we share the same lifestyle! we've been together for a year. i never thought i'd find someone again....but it will happen. just be patient and don't look for love. it will find you.
2007-02-07 04:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by Hello Kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just picking the wrong guys. The older single guys tend to be more accepting while the younger ones look at it as a kind of trap. I am not afraid to be with a single mom because i am very good with kids to begin with.
2007-02-07 04:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont mention a commitment too early. Never do that right off get to know him well. then ask him how he would feel about a commitment. Even though you may be dating someone always make time for your kid. No matter what is going on.
2007-02-07 04:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain I am a single parent with one kid. While on the other hand you are lucky to even make contact with men. I don't get any chances in meeting men. The only places I go are to drop my daughter off at school ,grocery shopping or paying bills.
2007-02-07 04:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by drightchristy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im one of those guys who isnt afraid of a girl with a kid, it makes no different to me whatsoever. But then again I am a rare breed. I dont know, you need to find the "nice" types.
Try asking guys out yourself, the outgoing ones that ask you out will be more likely to bolt on you. But if you happen to find a shy guy he probably wont care as much because he will be more pron to settling for what comes his way.
2007-02-07 04:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋