i am 14, and am in a sexual realtionship. i was wundering if it is possible for me to go on the pill without parents finding out.please help. btw.. i have just found out in not pregnant. i dont want another scare!!
2007-02-07 04:01:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You aren't going to like my answer but here it is. If you think that you are old enough to be having sex then you should be able to approach your parents and let them know that you would like to go on the pill.
I think what is more important at this stage in your life is that you learn proper punctuation. When you are using the letter i in referring to yourself it is to be capitalized, and wondering is spelled with an "o" not a "u". Please spend more time focusing on your school work and less time on your sex life.
And lastly good for you for wanting to use protection, but don't forget about condoms as well. The pill will not stop you from getting something huge AIDS, or something small like crabs. But as I have said, you should talk to your parents.
2007-02-07 04:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to try to be open with your parents. I am a parent and I would want my daughter to be open with me about her sexual activity.
There are so many STDs out there...I would help to make sure that she saw our OBGYN on a regular basis and I would seek to make sure that you were taking percautions.
Also, I would want to know who was 'getting busy' with my 14 year old daughter! I hope to the Big G that that boy is not 14 or 18 or older. You should not be sleeping with an adult...especially at your age. Adults who 'get busy' with young kids (yes, you are still a child) they are usually doing it under false pretense...telling you that they love you when they really only want to bang you. And, it is statutory rape. Its wrong.
You shouldn't really be sleeping with another kid at your age. There are so many potential problems associated with sex it isn't funny. And, not all birth control is 100% reliable (except for abstinance or a tubal ligation)--nor pregnancy tests, btw.
I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but you will find the answer to your question very easily. Again, your parents should be 'in the know.' They are your advocates. Why do you think they would be upset to begin with? Do you think there might be honest and serious reasons behind their reasoning? Of course you do. You want to play 'grown-up' then maybe its time that you seriously took a mature point of view. You might not like my opinion...but, in a couple of years you will know I'm right.
2007-02-07 12:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends where you are.
In England, and some US states it is possible - go to your doctor/GP or a family planning clinic and insist that you don't want your parents to find out. Ask to see a privacy/confidantiality policy before you even tell them your name. Be sure you understand the possible risks of using chemical/hormonal birth control.
Until then, for peace of mind, get your partner to use condoms if possible or if it is not, then don't have sex. Peace of mind is more important than getting some action.
Also, make sure you know whether sex is legal at your age and what the consequences are if it is not.
2007-02-07 12:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get on the pill is to talk to your parents about it...at least your mother. This way you can get all the information you need. Planned Parenthood, but I believe they have a parent sign if you are under 16. What are you doing having sex at 14 anyways?
2007-02-07 12:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by Katie N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best way to prevent having another "scare" is to quit having sex. You are only 14 and if this boy that you are in a relationship with cannot understand that you are to young to be sexually active then he is not the right guy for you. I really wish that young women had enough self-esteem and confidence about them selves to know that they don't have to have sex to be liked by the opposite sex.
2007-02-07 12:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 14 he's 22 and belongs in jail. Talk to your mother and ask her to take you to the doctor. You don't just need pills, you need a pap to test for stds.
I'm happy that you are not pregnant, but you need to get away from the rapeist.
2007-02-07 12:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to planned parenthood and they can help you.
However, as a parent, I would want to know when my daughter does become sexually active so I can explain to her the importance of protecting herself. It is very important to use a condom today, and not just to protect against pregnancy. There are a lot of deadly diseases out there and you need to be careful!
2007-02-07 12:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family Planning services are provided around the world and it's confidential no matter what age you are. Make sure you go in there you will need a pelvic exam which is free and then you can choose your method of birth control!
2007-02-07 12:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jillie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to your local health department. They may give you pills for free. Why not tell your mom? She will be less dissapointed than you think. She will probably be proud that you are being responsible about it. Do whatever is comfortable for you though. There will be a time when you will have to tell her.
2007-02-07 12:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by ANG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to any Health Department and there is a privacy policy that they can't tell anyone.
Yes you can to answer your question!!! :)
Good Luck and Be careful until you get on something and please still use condoms, b/c no pill protects from STDs!
2007-02-07 12:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋