So basically, ive been seeing this guy for 2 months, i met him at my old job. And hes just really cute and makes me laugh, trouble is now we're together hes a rubbish bf!!!Hes not got any drive, he doesnt even pretend to care about my interests he just plays computer games aalll the time. Also ive moved back home for work and i will only see him every 3 weeks or so, ive really given this a chance but i dont want the worry of it any more. I cant do the distance and i dont want to!
I want to do it over the phone only because im not going to see him for ages and i want out!
And yes i know its a week before valentines day which is terrible, but theres never a good time to dump someone.
Anyway tips would be great, do i tell him straight of on the phone or build up to it?
Thanking you!
2007-02-07 03:58:27 · 13 answers · asked by Spaced 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him. He sounds like a slacker and he probly won't get it unless you are direct about it.
2007-02-07 04:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Chris R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest the direct and straightforward approach. If you relay this news by phone he'll have more advance notice and won't embarras himself by planning a huge valentine's day surprise that would be lost on you. He could pursue someone else that may have caught his eye and you'll be free to roam. There's no easy way to break things off, but the sooner the better. He'll appreciate your not stringing him along. Tell him he's a great guy, that he has some wonderful qualities, but that he isn't the guy for you. Good Luck
2007-02-07 12:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should've given some feedback to your boyfriend and let him know that you weren't happy in the relationship between the two of you.
This would have given him a chance to treat you better.
But in any case, he would have known that not all is well between the two of you. And then it would have been a lot easier for you to break up with him.
When you keep it all to yourself even when you are dissatisfied, then eventually you end up in a situation where you have to shock the guy and hurt him with a break up that seems sudden and unexpected to him.
The guy will probably have trouble trusting women again after such a break up.
I suggest that you tell the guy that you weren't happy in your relationship with him and explain to him why. And if I were you, I would apologize for not being honest and open about it earlier. And then perhaps it would a good time for you to tell him that you want to break up with him.
2007-02-07 12:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing the right thing and furthermore understand you need to do it very soon. Hmm...I don't think there is an exact protocol; I would get it over with as soon as possible and be direct. It can be harder and seem heartless but it is a better approach. It's never a pleasing thing to do, so good luck.
2007-02-07 12:05:50 · answer #4 · answered by mcpouches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. No, your right. there is no good time to do this and you may do him a favour and he ll find someone new for valentines! I would call him and tell him by phone and then let things cool off. No answering textx, calls, letters or anything until you know its safe to venture back there without being bugged. I fyou carry on much longer he ll repluse you and then it wont end well. Good luck
2007-02-07 12:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by madgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always better to break up with someone in person...At least do that much for him...
Tell him that the distance is making you depressed and that you can't deal with depression and not getting to see him. That you want to break up, that it's not him, you're just getting depressed cause you two never see each other.
Be straight with him. Don't hint at it.
Good Luck.
2007-02-07 12:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by Rainy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right for getting out of this relationship, Thank God you saw his true colors early enough in the relationship, there are some people that the more time you spend with them the more you dislike them. Wait until you know he isn't around and leave a voicemail. or send him an email.
2007-02-07 12:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him straight up over the phone. life is to short to be dealing with crap your not interested in. Tell him to get his stuff and get out and then changer the locks. do it before valentines day.
2007-02-07 12:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out with it. No sense in beating around the bush. If he's been acting like that, then chances are, he's probably seen this coming.
2007-02-07 12:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by ஐ♥Gin♥ஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is your life and strictly your business what you do with your acquaintances but since you have decided to seek opinions, i will say that you should spend the val with him but prepare yourself to tell him your mind after wards and create space for second chance
2007-02-07 12:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by perboil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋