Ok well ive been with my boyfriend for awhile and everythings great but i hate when he starts talkn crap bout other females and their butts.It never really bothered me at first but now it does because its been a constant thing and it makes me feel like im not good enough and i really started thinking about ending it cuz i jus cant take it anymore.Ive told him before how it makes me feel and he did nothn but just go behind my back lookn at stuff i really didnt like.We got into a arguement and i just couldnt take it and told him how i feel.He either changes it because its startn to make me feel horrible like im not good enough which i know im well worth it.I knew at that point enough is enough so ladies and guys tell me what you think about it.
2007-02-07 03:56:30 · 18 answers · asked by boriqua_052005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
becasue they think they are nice. its something they like on a women. like i have a thing about hands.
2007-02-07 03:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by corie j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All guys are perverts at heart (this is what my guy told me) men don't be offended, you know you are somewhere inside. I have the tendency to get jealous when my guy looks at another woman, or even when a celebrity on tv is gorgeous and he can't shut up about her (even though there's no comparison there). I'm with a Marine, and they are always doing this "secret language" with their eyes towards each other, when a hot girl walks by, even if she's a "butterface" - which means hot bod, but not a good face- hence "but- her- face" I know I know-men are weird. I've told my guy when things bother me that he does, and he'll be honest and tell me that he likes to look at nice lookin women because women's bodies are beautiful- and when a nice looking body walks by, he can't help but appreciate it, and that it doesn't mean that I'm not beautiful or not good enough- sounds like pie, huh?! But he doesn't do it just to make me mad- I just catch him doing it, and he stops- but think about it, he's with you for a reason- but if he can't respect you and the way that this makes you feel, and atleast have a "secret language" that he can keep to himself- you need to re-evaluate your relationship. Good Luck:)
2007-02-07 04:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by arduA826 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well people arent going to stop being attracted to other people because they are in a relationship, but if it's to the point where you want to break up he should not make comments around you. After a while that will chip away at your self esteem and I dont blame you for getting upset. I know with most Black men, they love love love women with huge butts. My butt is medium sized, and when I'm around a woman with a big butt I just try to remind myself that I'm still beautiful and that if he really loves me he may look but dont touch. Its all about respect. If he is going to look and comment he doesnt have to do it in front of you.
2007-02-07 04:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a guys nature to look at other women, especially nice looking ones. That being said, when a guy is in a relationship he should be aware of his significant others feelings. It's okay to look, but if he stares or makes comments that make you uncomfortable, tell him how it makes you feel. If he cares about you he will at least make an effort to adjust his behavior.
2007-02-07 04:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by whodeyflya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy would not open the door for me on our first date, thats it, pastime over. i choose a guy to placed me first in his existence, & if he won't be able to placed me ahead of him for 2 seconds, then it received't artwork out. as well, establishing the door shows note of, chivalry, & thoughtfulness. Who would not choose that? Now if a pal does it.. no large deal... its quite efficient.. & i am going to go back the want.. yet i choose a romantic significant different to open the door for me atleast on the first date...
2016-11-25 23:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're b.f. needs to mature some. He's acting like he's in junior high and you are obviously past this stage. Men in general are simply awed by the variety and absolute beauty of women in general. Forgive us, we can't help it.
2007-02-07 04:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by deno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. No decent guy talks about other women or makes his partner feel unattractive. Lose the slob.
2007-02-07 04:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay for a guy to look at t and a but not when you have a gf around
2007-02-07 04:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Cool_Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if you told him how you feel and he is still doing what he is doing...than that lets you know that he doesnt care about you and doesnt respect your feelings...so the best thing to do is just to get rid of him and find someone else who will respect...
2007-02-07 04:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just end it or bring it up to him and tell him to stop talking about that.
2007-02-07 03:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get used to it. It will be this guy with butts, and someone else with boobs. It will ALWAYS be something. Why do you think we're all so bitter?
2007-02-07 04:03:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋