Navy Seal marriages and relationships have a 15% success rate. I want to be that 15%. I won't cheat. I will be lonely with my kitties or possibly children. I will be honored to be his gf/wife. I will support him in all that he does. I should do this right? I'm not crazy? We've only known each other for about 7 months, but knowing him and loving him just feels right. I told him that I loved him when I was drunk. This was the night before he left for San Diego. He doesn't want me to wait. What do I do? I don't want to move on at all. I look at other men and just get sick to my stomach. I'm depressed. I'm in love with the right man at the wrong time. He calls it, "**** Happens," and he told me that even though he thinks I shouldn't wait that he'll go against the odds with me, if that's what I want. HELP?! (Those of you who answered my other questions rudely are not welcome to answer this.)
2007-02-07 03:53:24 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It sounds like you already know what you want. I've known my wife since I was 15, I enlisted in the Marines was away for nearly five years including 18 months in combat we've been married happily for almost 7 years. The only difference between you and my wife is we were married before I went to combat, in the big scheme of things its not a big difference. Things like this tend to work themselves out for the best-if you love it let it go, if it comes back its meant to be-that's the best advice I could give you.
I also told my wife not to wait when I enlisted, I didn't mean it when I said it, I said it because I didn't want her to hang her happiness on my returning. I joined before 9/11 but I went into the Marines guaranteed infantry and I knew what the risks were if the nation did go to war. Servicemen are allot more selfless and realistic than the nation as a whole gives us credit for.
2007-02-07 04:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Centurion529 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and want to wait that's a decision only you can make... and i'm sure YOU would be a devoted spouse... but what about him? Could he be having doubts? Does he just think it's bad timing too or could there be a deeper reason he wants you to move on? Make sure you his heart is in this as much as yours. If it is - go for it! there's nothing in this world more satisfying than a loving family.
2007-02-07 04:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make sure that the both of you are on the same page on this or you are going to wind up getting hurt. It sounds like you really love this person but you need to make sure that you are both committed to making this relationship work. I would suggest talking with him about how he intends to ensure that you will remain together and loyal through his time away. I would also sit down and ask yourself why he doesn't want you to wait for him.
2007-02-07 04:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by partypooper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seven months is plenty of time to know that you love him. You should go for it. It isn't statistics that help a relationship work, it is the couple. If the two of you are willing to go through whatever it takes, even the abnormal sacrifices that you will have to make being the wife of a Navy Seal then may God bless your relationship. Good luck!!
2007-02-07 04:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Gal 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well my bf asked me to marry him yesterday. and i said yes. he is going overseas in may or so. I will marry him when he gets back and we both trust each other. I'm not worried about him cheating on me or dumping me and he feels the same. the important thing is communication and understanding. I will fight for this relationship no matter what-even the 15% success rate...
2007-02-07 04:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, how about setting something up where you could visit him as much as possable. Maybe even consider moving closer to him so that you can see if it works out. If you think this is possably a great thing then go for it. Don't get older thinking about how you let the greatest man go by. be daring, it could work or not but don't you want to find out.
2007-02-07 04:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by rain9439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to break this to you, but it does not sound like he really wants you in the first place. If he was really into you there is nothing in the world that could stop him from having you, I feel he just does not want to hurt your feelings. My advice to you is to move on to someone that has the same passion that you do for them. He does not want you plain and simple so stop torturing yourself.
2007-02-07 04:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD NOT GO BY THE 15%. GO BY YOUR HEART. IF YOU FEEL ITS RIGHT THEN FIGHT FOR IT. BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR BOYFRIEND DOESNT FEEL THE SAME WAY. SOUNDS LIKE HE WANTS YOU TO MOVE ON. MOST LIKELY HE IS MOVING ON AS WELL. IF YOU WANT TO WRITE HIM GO AHEAD AND DO IT BUT KEEP ON LIVING BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN HE WILL BE ABLE TO COME HOME TO YOU. COULD BE 5 WEEKS COULD BE 5 MONTHS OR 5 YEARS. YOU HAVE ONLY KNOWN HIM FOR 7 MONTHS. KEEP IT MOVING!!
2007-02-07 04:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is between you and him if he doesn't want you to wait maybe he has already thrown in the towel. Be honest with yourself and each other and let the chips fall were they may.
2007-02-07 04:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by Alan W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said he didn't want you to wait for him... that says a lot. It doesn't sound like he wants you as much as you want him. Sorry.
2007-02-07 04:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by tapping toes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋