Finding hope?

Question

I have sufferd from derpression for 5 years now and today i had a very down spiral i even scared myself how much i didnt want to carry on, i rang my thearpist and she said theres not much they can help me with unless i self harm or sucide attempt, it seems no one will help me unless i do that,
I feel i have tryed everything from medication, thearpy, hpynothearpy.
its looks like i need to try and take it in to my own hands but how do i start? how can i try to make myself feel better?
and stop asking myself whats the point of life all the time.

Answer 1

Deep depression is very very tough. It can feel like you are not only just existing, but being tortured as well.

In those difficult dark times, try to distract yourself...I know this doesn't take the pain away but it can help the hours in the day to go by a little more comfortably. When you're depressed, you don't feel like doing much, if anything. But maybe get yourself a set of gel pens and a colouring pattern book or other colouring book they do for adults and try to focus on that.

You may not feel like seeing people but if there are a couple of people you feel close to, try to see them, you don't have to go out if you don't feel like it, but try to DO something together at your home. If you can manage to go out, go together for a coffe then home again.

The only way I managed to come through my deepest and worst times was to lean on friends and distract myself by doing little things that are not chore related.

By leaning on people close to you, I mean, not always spend the whole time talking about the way you feel because that will bring you down further, spend some time talking if that's what you want, then actually do something.

There is no doubt the road you are walking is a very rocky one and at times it feels as though you've fallen down a pothole and gone to hell. Hold on in there, as tough as it is, the ride will begin to smooth....honestly, even though you think it's impossible.

There was a time when I wanted out of this world, well out of the pain my brain was giving me, I did come close to that. Now I am so glad I held on and leaned on because today I have my life back after 5 years, like you.

Very best wishes.

Answer 2

Girl, I hear ya. I've been battling depression for 3 years now. Over Christmas Break, I attempted suicide. My husband brought me to a hospital, he was so scared for me. I don't know about you, but I'm so up and down all the time. I've tried soooo many medications. I was on Paxil when I tried to kill myself. I think you need to find a medicine that will help you. Also look into nerve medication. I take Prozac and Buspar and am feeling much better these days. Also, I was told to exercise.....even if it means going for a walk. Exercising raises the seratonin level in your brain which makes you "feel happy". If you need to talk, just e-mail me. Good luck and don't give up. It's not worth it. Suicide is forever. Oh, and I forgot. I think you need a new therapist. One who actually cares about your well-being.

Answer 3

I had a close friend who attempt sucide 4 years ago.
After all these years,his parents has nothing 2 feel except pain.
So don't u ever be that selfish to do such a thing to harm people who love you.
Have u seen the movie named CLICK?
It shows although this is a creepy world,Be goOd,be useful,Appriciate your chances.
Me myself had 3 surgery in these 5 months & don't care when is gonna be my time to leave this world,I hate this life,I hate to be hurt on & on,but I fight 2 reach my silly goals & if I won't I don't even care.

So the first thing u can do is...To set a goal in your life. No matter how silly it is,just DO IT.
GoOd luck buddy
Dr.2M

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I was depressed for a period of several years and its only therapy which helped me. There are many types of therapy but the one that really helped me bring it together again was Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. After 6 months of that I was ready to start coming off the massive dose of antidepressants I was on. It took months but I did it. I have been drug free for 4 years and have no recurrence of the depression. If you are not doing CBT perhaps you could change.
Try to remember there is always a reason to go on, no matter how small!

Answer 5

Finding hope is hard, I know exactly how you feel so Im not gona write a message to say "there is light at the end of the tunnel" and other meaningless quotes like that because I know thats not what I want to hear when I feel like that. I dont know what to do because Im in the same position as you.The only advice I can give is to keep busy..

Answer 6

Try volunteer work or working with animals. Helping others has always helped me get out of a funk. You can change the world and help others overcome obstacles and in turn help yourself.

Answer 7

JESUS: The sinless and Only begotten SON OF GOD. Try to find a church honey, not just any church, not Jehovah's Witnesses, NOT MORMONS, just any good church that teaches directly from the Word of God!!! You will find, that its not hard to make friends at church, and when you recieve Jesus into your heart, by actually believing, and by faith--that we are all born in sin, and we need a SAVIOR---JESUS is the ONLY ONE. When you do, the Holy Spirit, whose is given by Jesus as a helper, will come and abide in your soul, GOD is nothing but peace and love, and there is nothing to fear in Christ Jesus.

I know that all of your questions will begin to be answered as you daily seek Jesus, by reading your bible and praying EVERYDAY.
Prayer is not difficult, and its powerful beyond explanation. When you sacrifice your own time, to personally seek the Lord in prayer, HE will meet your needs. MOST of all, you will know "that PERFECT LOVE (agape) CASTS OUT FEAR!" and you will begin to make sense of why you couldn't find answers apart from your Maker. HE IS WAITING FOR YOU TO SEEK HIM, he will not barge into your life, that is not His way~! Patience, peace, love, longsuffering..are only a few of His awesome attributes, and you can live your daily life, walking in the same love and know that you are accepted in HIM, no one else matters, your past does not matter....just the LORD. HE DIED for all sins, everything in the past, present, and future is forgiven when you call on the awesome name of Jesus.

Please give it a shot, if you think Im delusional--as the WORLD would have you to believe, then humor me and just start reading the bible and find a good church. Just try it. NOT all churches are bad or money grubbers.....sometimes it takes a little effort on your part to try out different churches in your area to find one that HONORS and bases all sermons on the Word.

As much as I would like to say my issues with depression and worth were mind over matter, I CANT. ONLY ONE PERSON CAN fill that spot.....for there is a GOD shaped hole in all our souls, only HE can fill it!!!
GOD BLESS YOU, you are in my prayers!!!
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Answer 8

Why not go to Church? And pray to God and volunteer
in Church. Go to Africa or other places with your Church
group. Children in Africa will make your smile and turn
your life around. My friend is going to Africa next week,
and she is so exciting about going there. And my cousin
went there, she loves it... great memories.... she got herself
attach to those kids in Africa, they always hugged her.
I think that is why Madonna and Jolie adopted one of them.

Answer 9

Try here
http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/

Answer 10

maybe start socialising more go to things like reiki and youga very calming