Navy Seal marriages and relationships have a 15% success rate. I want to be that 15%. I won't cheat. I will be lonely with my kitties or possibly children. I will be honored to be his gf/wife. I will support him in all that he does. I should do this right? I'm not crazy? We've only known each other for about 7 months, but knowing him and loving him just feels right. I told him that I loved him when I was drunk. This was the night before he left for San Diego. He doesn't want me to wait. What do I do? I don't want to move on at all. I look at other men and just get sick to my stomach. I'm depressed. I'm in love with the right man at the wrong time. He calls it, "**** Happens," and he told me that even though he thinks I shouldn't wait that he'll go against the odds with me, if that's what I want. HELP?! (Those of you who answered my other questions rudely are not welcome to answer this.)
2007-02-07 03:50:34 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My military experience is quite normal... Military brat - father never home, bf's in military never home. I'm not a cheater and i'm very proud of him.
2007-02-07 03:57:19 · update #1
Normally, I would be against something like this where I would tell you "Go find yourself someone else...". This guy gave you the option. Right now he's headed towards the BUDs training which require a different mindset. There is no garantee that he'll come out a seal. If he told you he'll go against all odds with you, go for it. Support him through it all. Be his backbone. Remember, you have to understand that you have to contend with his SEALs aspirations. So do not be angry if he has less time for you than you want. It's very rigorous. You have to try. The worst thing is to be left with regrets. You don't want that. Best wishes.
2007-02-07 03:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by s_p_u_d_n_i_k 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, with him being a SEAL, he is going to go to places on very short notice. You could be sitting down to a romantic dinner and he get called to go someplace, which you won't see him for a month or two, or even longer. With him telling you not to wait, he is only trying to ease your mind, meaning, he is wanting you to not wait for him and cheat yourself on finding that special someone, if its not him.
He could be saying that too, because he might not know if he will be faithful to you, since he will be gone for long periods of time.
However, if you are willing to put up with having his job come first, over you, then go for it. If he is willing to be true, then you have a good foundation to being that 15%.
2007-02-07 04:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by George P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't say how old either of you are. Just be prepared for a lot of time alone as he is deployed and training...be prepared for nights wondering if he's okay, why doesn't he call? What the hell is he doing?
If you can handle that...and support him...and realize that it would be wrong for you to marry him and then ask him to quit the Seals, because he is living his dream.
Then go ahead and marry him. Statistics are just numbers...
2007-02-07 03:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it and the heck with the odds quoted to you. Believe that YOU BOTH are part of the 15% - not the other way around
good luck
2007-02-07 03:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by island3girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife of 15 years (16 this year) stuck by me during all of my deployments, and we are still going strong. I want you to know that you are his anchor while he is out there, and he looks forward to knowing that you believe in him, and that you are waiting on him to come home. This thought got me through many a night sitting on my bunk. :)
2007-02-07 04:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Biff Stew 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would go for it, I had tighter odds than that and would do it again. There is something powerful about knowing, I DID MY BEST.................
2007-02-07 03:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by zeepogee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to just move on. I'm not trying to be mean, but he is.
2007-02-07 03:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Pretty Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone else.
2007-02-07 04:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋