I suffer from body dysmorphic disorder?

Question

I never realized this until a couple of years ago. I look at myself and say how disgusting I look. I just think of myself as not being pretty at all. I've been told I am but I just don't believe it. If I really was pretty then I wouldn't have to wear makeup or anything. Not to mention be overall unhappy with the way I look. There is nothing I would like more then to get over this, whether it be through surgery or through psychological help, but the problem with that is, is that I don't have the money to get the help I need and there isn't really anyone I can talk to about this, because there is only one person that knows that about me. So what I wanted know is if there were any suggestions on what I should do.

Answer 1

If you really cannot afford to get psychological help, I think you need to try positive thinking.

Firstly think about what it is that you think is wrong with the way you look. Is it really as bad as you think it is? Is there noone else with this problem? Do other people really notice like you do?

And pretty people wear make-up, and so do people who are not considered pretty, maybe you have got yourself into a cycle where you feel that you cannot not wear make-up. Try cutting down perhaps just wearing the basics e.g foundation and mascara
get used to the way you look.

Noone is perfect. And if you try hard enough you can find a fault in anyone on this earth...

The key thing to remember is to not compare yourself with other people. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT.
It's hard to feel confident if you feel you are not as pretty as other people, but there are people who are not considered to be pretty by society and still make the most out of how they look, and are confident about it.

Really beautiful people are in the minority, most of us are ok, maybe not models but we are all attractive in our own way.
How often do you see someone and think they are really really hideous?

Try to be the best that you can be without criticising yourself, Enhance your positive features and illiminate the negative.

Answer 2

I don't know where you live, but in many places there are clinics that charge clients according to their income. Also, don't even THINK about getting cosmetic surgery! First of all, even if you don't believe it, you probably look just fine. Also, there are some people who actually become addicted to cosmetic surgery, which usually doesn't look natural. Just look at a picture of Michael Jackson, and you'll know what I mean. Also, I think you should know that most models don't even look as good as they do on the magazine covers. In fact, the photographers often have to use airbrushing to get rid of undereye circles, zits, blackheads, nose hairs, etc. I really hope you get help soon. Life is too short for you to beat yourself up.

Answer 3

You need to keep busy, pick a hobby that when you are doing it you don't think of anything else, for some people that is painting others tennis, playing an musical instrument, playing with your pets, or try really hard to think of ways to help people in your family or your friends and neighbors. If you have something productive and positive, to keep you busy, you can keep your mind occupied with other things , other than your looks. Honestly most people are probably not really even paying attention to your looks as much as you think. People tend to pay more attention to how you make them feel.