A coworker sent me an email that I was too weird for him to be friends with because I was sending him mixed signals. We had been close for awhile and I told him it was best that we ignore each other so I can get over my crush on him since he already has a gf. Anyway during all of this, he suggested that the best way to get over him was to sleep with him. I thought he really wanted me because he kept asking if I wanted to do it. Then he told me that I should do it with someone else since he already has a gf. Of course, I felt hurt ,angry, and embarrassed since I told him things that I wanted him to do to me. A few days later I called him a dog via text since he jerked my feelings around, then I felt bad about it and wrote a letter apologizing to him. A few days ago, he looked at me like he wanted to say hello and I emailed him asking him if we could just treat each other like coworkers and say hi. He told me I was too werd and that we should ignore each other. Now,
I'm ignoring him.
2007-02-07 03:42:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he is playing games with you, and now you got caught out. He is probably laughing about it with his friends.
You need to ignore him socially, and if it ever comes up again you need to act like you were playing the joke on him. Be careful who you trust next time
2007-02-07 03:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That little boundry of uncomfort has been crossed and this talking about it back and forth is only dragging out the situation and feeding the fire ..he's pressed .. she's pressed it leaves open conversation to build into a blow out.. 1st ..haven't you heard the expression don't sh#t where you eat ..you don't want a relationship with someone you work with.. where's the relief in that especially when there's tension.. We all grown and sexy here so act accordingly.. you (and him) need to get a grip of your emotions and let em go.. when you see em .. speak or not..don't get all flustered .. a head nod or what's up will do and keep it movin.. time will pass you'll both get over yourselves and life will continue down it's path..and you will get over your crush...
2007-02-07 03:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by stuknasandbox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have both been sending mixed signals. The bottom line is this... he has a gf and asked you to sleep with him. You gotta take what he says with a huge grain of salt. Your suggestion to just be co-workers is right on the money.
2007-02-07 03:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by selena n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him. If he comes back around, tell him that you can' t talk to him or be involved with him in any way because he's the one that's WEIRD.
Tell him that you deserve better. That you are tired of him jerking on your chain, just so he can play with your feelings and try to get you for a booty call.
Just ignore him and try to move on; he's not worth it.
Good Luck.
2007-02-07 03:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rainy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're really stuck on this guy and will probably keep posting the same question until you receive reassurance that he's worth giving up your self respect. Well....he isn't. Get over it! If you like emotional and psychological abuse there's plenty of guys where he came from. So my advice is if he 'comes back around' gather enough evidence to narc him out to his girlfriend. Neither of you will be happy then. And work on your self esteem problem while you're at it.
2007-02-07 03:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from reading all your info it is definitely YOU who has made you and your co-workers relationship bad..you need to first know your boundaries being that this is not only a co-worker but some one who is already in a relationship and second you should be smart enough and have enough self-pride and confidence to not let this man who you know has a girlfriend talk you in to making a fool out of yourself sexually or in any other way (although he already has) if i were you i would let it go and forget about it all together once and for all stop playin yourself and being his fool he has friends, he has a girl and with you around he now has entertainment..im not trying to be mean or harsh but if you know men and if you look at what it is you are doing you will see what this situation really is about and how it looks to all of us reading about it...
2007-02-07 03:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by ELIZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little too late to do the right thing now. Close this account out and get a new bank.
2007-02-07 04:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you are both playing all sorts of games. You probably SHOULD ignore each other. Also, if he has a gf then why were you even planning to sleep with him?
2007-02-07 03:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have both been giving each other mixed signals,And have now got your wires crossed,Just be polite to him if you see him at work,Otherwise i would keep away from him he has a girl friend already..
2007-02-07 03:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing a good thing by inoring him. He called you strange and didn't want to be friends with you and now he wants to? I wont' give him the time of the day. You don't need that. You deserve someone better.
2007-02-07 03:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋