I was part of a wedding last year and ended up being friends with the other bridesmaid who I have not never met before. Since the bride noticed we clicked, asked if I would like to take this friend out to dinner for her birthday recently. Guest of honor and I showed up at the restaurant and the bride showed up half an hour late. Said she was tied up at her parents and already ate. She just watched us finish our meal. When the check came, she never offered to contribute to her friend's birthday meal. Not to make a fuss, so I paid the entire check. Later I asked her to pay for half of the other friend's meal. Her reasoning for not even offering to pay half was because she didn't eat at the restaurant and brought a gift. Does she have a point? She did arrange the dinner in the first place and it was her friend too.
2007-02-07 03:36:16 · 18 answers · asked by pathfindercia 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
LOL. Omode, she definitely was not trying to set us up in the sense that you are referring.
2007-02-07 03:45:08 · update #1
She is rude. She is inconsiderate. She should have picked up the whole tab for being so late and so rude, but she won't pay. Reconsider how much you want invested in this relationship. She sounds like a loser.
2007-02-07 03:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that the bride wanted to give her friend a great birthday but had no intentions of paying for it all. If she had ask you to take her friend to dinner, you agreed, but she (the bride) was not going to be there, then I would understand. This could then be called a date and you could chose to foot the entire bill since it is the lady's birthday.That would have been your choice to make. It was in very bad taste that the bride chose to have dinner prior to arriving at the restaurant and just as bad that she arrived late. I would feel like I was taken advantage of and you should too. The fact that she never even ordered a drink proves that she had no intentions of helping to pay the bill. Hence her reasoning.
In answer to your question, no she does not have a point. The point is she does owe you an apology and if she wants to continue your close friendship then she should reimburse you for half the meal. Anything else is in poor judgement and taste. If she does neither of these be very careful where she is concerned next time. Then take this as a learning experience and move on.
Friends should be honest with each other and she wasn't.
2007-02-07 11:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by M G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could of at least offered to pay when the check came. I think it is also rude that she already ate at her parents house knowing she had prior plans with you and her friend for dinner. Also, showing up late was extremely rude. To me, it looks as though she put you on the spot and pretty much took advantage of you. Some people are just cheapskates and unconsciously know it themselves. I think you have the right to feel the way you do because I would be somewhat offended too. Its not always the money issue that counts, its more the principle.
2007-02-07 13:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by ginluvsrob06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say since it was her idea she should have paid for some of the friends meal. it seems like since she bought a gift she must have regreted making the plans and took the cheaper way out. And her getting there late and having already ate sealed her deal not to have to pay - in her eyes. Be the bigger person this time, and I wouldn't make any plans like this with her in the future.
2007-02-07 11:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since she arranged the dinner she should have paid at least half if not the whole bill. Her excuse is just that, an excuse. I wouldn't press the issue again but the next time she offers a suggestion or attempt to make arrangements tell her thank you but no thank you.
2007-02-07 12:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by vjr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She decided not to pay based on the fact that she did not partake of the food at the restaurant? Well, the dinner was not about her. It was about the birthday girl. So whether she ate at the restaurant or not is defnitely not an excuse not to pay. It's not about her.
2007-02-07 14:27:11 · answer #6 · answered by Paddington 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No; she should not pay money but she should pay you an apology after you say to her you are disappointed in her irresponsible planning that resulted in being late and resulted in a half-hearted participation in the friend's birthday celebration.
2007-02-07 12:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have offered to pay some of it. It was rude of her to eat elsewhere when she knew that this was a birthday dinner.
2007-02-07 11:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she was being rude.. just ask for seperate checks and go out of your way to get charged seperatly in the future so she sees how stingy shes being.. thats rude and i've been in that situation and although i didnt have anything i still helped with the bill..
2007-02-07 13:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by yourmygoodfeeling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since it was her idea, yes she should have chipped in but don't make an issue out of this, take the 'high road' this time.
2007-02-07 11:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋