can somebody help my dilemma?

Question

my dad left when i was 12, i am now 16 and my dad is getting married to a much younger woman. the wedding is on a nearby island and when i asked how my brothers and i would get there, he suggested to get train-bus-train-ferry-bus-taxi. should i go, my dad aggravates me so much

Answer 1

i think you should go, just to show respect and maybe your dad is really trying to turn his life around, i'm sure he would be happy if you went and it could only make you stronger. my dad just got re married and i'm sixteen. i didn't approve, but i was glad i went afterwards

Answer 2

You and your brother should send him a nice card telling him how happy you are that he has found happiness and explaining that you are so sorry you won't be able to attend; train-bus-train-ferry-bus-taxi is a little much financially and a little much for you to be responsible for your 12 year old brother.....

In doing it this way, you will keep the doors of communication open from your side anyway.

Answer 3

I am a little confused. I can't tell what your dilemma is. Is it transportation? The age of the fiance? Or that your dad aggravates you? I think you really want to go and maybe you are looking for reasons not to. You should seriously consider it before making a decision in haste and regretting it later.

Answer 4

Doesn't sound to me like your dad is too concerned about how you're going to get there! Maybe you should not go to be on the safe side of not getting hurt. It's so unfortunate when some men choose to leave their children as if they are starting a new life without any worries. It will come back to them in time. Live your life sweetheart, and if he contacts you and SENDS for you...(a plane...or arrange some way through his expense for you to come), then go, if not...I wouldn't bother.

Answer 5

Sadly it doesn't seem, from the limited details you gave here, that your dad cares one way or another how you will get there or if you attend at all. If he left you, then you have no obligation to go to his wedding. It's up to you. I would suggest seeking advice from a family counselor, perhaps he/she could help mend the family and make the wedding a happier occasion. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

your dad is your dad whatever be the reason that he is now marrying another woman .If he wants you and you really want to attend let him send you money if that is the problem otherwise, get a better discription of the so called island and make your way there simple.

Answer 7

Is your father making arrangements for you to be at the wedding? If he isn't he may not even want you there. I wouldn't worry myself about it. Just don't go. I know he is your dad, but it seems to me that he could careless if his children are there or not. I wouldn't put myself in a place where Im not wanted.

Answer 8

If he's not willing to help and isn't really in your life then don't worry about it. If you feel at all that in the years to come it would be something you'll regret missing than put aside your aggravation and go.

Answer 9

Accepting that a parent is moving on may be a difficult thing. It might help to go to the wedding. Going to the wedding may help to define your new role as well as your fathers. It would show that you still want to be a part of your father's life even though that may not include your mother.

Answer 10

Leaving or not, aggravation or not; how badly do you want to have a relationship with your dad?

Then tell him you can't afford the trip. See how badly he really wants you there.