I've lost the passion/love for my girl of 9 years.. and I am beginning to like her best friend, she's been friends with her for over 20 years. Well her friend likes me. Would it be right for me to break up with my girlfriend now and then ask her best friend to marry me???
2007-02-07 03:23:59 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's really messed up.
2007-02-07 03:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To have love and lost is better than to have never loved at all, that statement has so much power behind it but it hurts to the core. My friend I can understand where you are coming from but I have to tell you that you are being selfish and inconsiderate, you should not ask your girlfriend's best friend out or to marry you that would crush her and if her friend was a true friend she would tell you that as if you did not already know that. If you no longer have feelings for your girlfriend leave her and move on with someone else how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot. You would not want her going out with your best friend would you lets think of everyone involved not just yourself.
2007-02-07 03:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are completely heartless. Why would you break up a friendship of 20 years for your own agenda? Aren't there other women in the world you can go out with that are not in anyway connected to your current girlfriend? How would you feel if your best friend did that to you after being friends with him for all those years? Grow up and be mature about this. Because this will not end well for any of you.
2007-02-07 03:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't be serious. This is normal. After 7 or 9 years this happens to everyone. I would recommend taking a very hard and long look at this idea. It could be a good thing but this rarely works out. Besides, her best friend (though she likes you) would probably not go for this. I'd back off this idea and wait a couple months and see if everyone still feels the same way. 9 years is worth making a little more effort. Hang in there!
2007-02-07 03:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be horrible for you to break up with your current girlfriend to marry her best friend. If you are not happy in your current situation then break up with your girlfriend and find someone else (not in her close circle of friends) There are plenty of women out there that you should not have to marry your ex girlfriends best friend. Imagine she broke up with you and married your best friend. I am pretty sure that if you were still in love with her that it would really hurt you. Put your self in her shoes and imagine how devasting it would be for something like that to happen to you.
It doesn't matter how much you are attracted to this girl. You have the choice to love someone else. Remember love is something you do not something that just happens.
Good luck and I hope you do the right thing (for everyone involved).
2007-02-07 03:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by mom2omar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have lost the passion of the one you have dated for 9 years then yes there is no reason for you to have to be with her but to turn around and ask here best friend of 20 years out that there is just wrong
2007-02-07 03:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by super_man_4888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAAAAYM tis a very delicate situation as long as BOTH of you are in love well, nobody can make a difference in that only ur guys selves and hey if its that serious then think over it twice as much and dont rush this but do tell ur gal cuz she deserves the right to know IM mean its not like its her fault that u dont like her AND NO!! its not ur fault either but im sure theres an understanding in this situation but IF i were u i would let her know ( ur gal) and tell her the WHOLE thing and just be easy on her u know as HARD as it will be dont end it with hate and dont end up having a nemesis but ull know what to say when the time is nigh hope this helped in one way or another or opened ur mind to sum way of thought to a solution or ur dilemma
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2007-02-07 03:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by EddY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd end up being a prick, but, if that's what you want to do, do it. You're not married to your gf of 9 years. Good luck with that.
Oh yeah, by th way, get ready to be stabbed in the back by your new girl if she's been "best friends" with your gf for over 20 years. :)
Go ahead and marry her and see what happens. I guaranty your wallet is gonna get hit HARD!!!! LOL!!!!
2007-02-07 03:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be ver wrong of you. And shame on the best friend. If you don't have feelings for your girl anymore then break up with her but dont, i repeat dont go after her best friend. There are a lot of women in the world that you will be attracted to. Do not go after the best friend.
2007-02-07 03:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by cmartin814 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be right??? Hell no!!! That is definitely wrong. Remember that is her best friend. Find some one else to fall in love with. How do you think your girlfriend will feel or do you care? Have some self respect and move on with some one other than her best friend.
2007-02-07 03:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by justy2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband is now with one of my friends, he has been with over 10 of them so ya its really messed up.
Now the one that he is with is having his baby in a few months.
I was lucky b/c we were only friends for a short time b4 they got together.
Think about it this way, if she loves you and you love her great but what is it going to do for there friendship and are you and her willing to take what comes at you?
Is she willing to lose a friend of 20 yrs?
Its a really hard one to make, so the best thing I could say is talk to the other one and see were she stands with it too.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 03:34:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋