My boyfriend is a very hardworking man, loyal and all the good thing a woman would ever ask for a man.
He is also a dedicated Apostolic Christian. He goes to church every Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday
(Church Service, Sunday School etc.) Also, he wakes up at 3am every single day just to pray, read the bible and
bible study online before going to work. It drives me crazy and I am getting worried, He was one time upset
because he missed church for a day or two because they had to work late in the office. He said he would
considerlooking for another job if that happens again. He also brings his very huge and thick Bible wherever
he goes and reads it whenever possible (lunch break etc). He have read the Bible back to back a million times
over and over again and he said he would still do over and over again. (note he also reads Bible Study online)
He also mentioned that he prays for me everyday that I would go to heaven and blah bla
2007-02-07 03:23:35 · 10 answers · asked by Faith H 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I told him he is a
fu(king crazy guy for doing so. He also admitted that he would consider becoming a Pastor in the future not unless
I disagree. It is really driving me crazy as hell. I am worried he might turn into some Bible thumper lunatic
one day. Most of the time when we are just carrying a normal conversation...'well, the bible says..."
We are getting married next year and now I am having second thoughts. Don't get me wrong, I was aware
he is a religious person when we were just dating. But as the year passed, I think he is over doing it.
Do you agree he is over doing it?
2007-02-07 03:23:59 · update #1
You should be thankful that has such strong convictions. It sounds like to me that he is very happy with his religion. If you are having a problem with it then now is the time to reconsider your relationship with him, not after you are married. If this isn't what you want in a husband then you need to be honest with him and let him find someone who does. The worst thing you can so is to stay with him and expect him to change his values for you. You will both end up miserable. You should be thankful that your only complaint is that he is "too" religious. Be thankful that you're not on here complaining that he's is a drug addict that beats you and sleeps around and has 10 children by a bunch of different women. It sounds like you have a very nice, kind, considerate guy, why don't you try to embrace that part of him and try to understand why he is so passionate about it? Good luck
2007-02-07 03:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
aww, hunnie, are you sure this is the guy for you? it sounds that you have issues with his religion... when you get married, theres a very real possibility that he wont change, and will still be spending all that time @ church etc.. areyou ok with that? mixing religions is a h ard hard thing... it requires give and take on BOTH sides... think long and hard if this is the guy for you.... as religious as he sounds, theres also a real chance that say you guys get married... and a year from then you decide you cant handle it-- i can almost bet that he will try not to divorce.. your best bet would be to sit him down, and discuss it.. good luck --
btw, i am not a non-christian... just a bad one. I dont go to church but, i do believe in God, Heaven and Hell etc etc...
and i know from personal experiance that marrying someone outside your religion is extremely hard....
2007-02-07 11:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by asailorsstar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why dating for a long time is the best option. You learn about each other more.
It appears he has reached the level of Bible thumping lunatic since his replies are all based around what it says. Going to church 4 days a week and becoming upset if he misses are serious signs of his devotion to his religion. Since he has to "pray" for you to go to heaven, he is indicating his belief that you will not achieve that goal unless you follow the same path as he. It will only become worse.
If you have no intention of following his religious path, then I suggest you end it NOW.
2007-02-07 11:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by S H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always too much of a good thing, even the Bible. I would worry that he would expect you to change your behavior to match his after you are married. He is already a serious bible-beater. There are wise things to remember day to day in the bible, but there are also many contradictory things.
I think he is going a little too far, but that's my opinion. What you have to decide is whether you are comfortable with his lifestyle or not.
2007-02-07 11:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
most of us can tolerate almost everything in the begining, but when times went by we start to have second thought..why i have to tolerate?
As u had said, u are getting married next year but u are having 2nd thought now, i suggest u really need to take a break from him or your marriage will end up worse. Not everybody can accept his over dedicated attitude. You cant change him unless u change yourself.
2007-02-07 11:50:24 · answer #5 · answered by † Iríšh † 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can never over do it. God wants you to be fully dedicated to him all the time. He wants you to pray every day and spend time with him. If it is cutting out a significant amount of time that he can't spend with you, then maybe you should talk to him. God wants us to be with him always, but that doesn't require you to read the BIble 3 hundred times. If that's what he feels God is calling him to do, let him do it. God's plans are always right, and believe me, they always work out. So even though I can see where you are coming from, I don't think that there's anything that you can say that will make him stop reading his Bible and praying. It's a part of who he is, and let me tell you, you are one lucky girl for that.
2007-02-07 11:29:30 · answer #6 · answered by .:Blair:. 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hate to say this, but I really wonder if you're right for each other. It sounds like he's obviously very religious, whereas you are not. And if this is causing conflicts now, imagine what problems it would cause once you married and started living together.
2007-02-07 11:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by tangerine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are wrong for each other. He is a true dedicated believer, and you seem pretty wishy-washy about God. If he wants to be a pastor he needs a wife who is dedicated to God
2007-02-07 11:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by startrektosnewenterpriselovethem 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like he already is a bible thumper..sucks for you
2007-02-07 17:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is a nutcase...run away before it's too late!
2007-02-07 11:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Cristobal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋