sexual abuse in toddlers?

Question

i want to talk to someone who has delt with a sexually abused child and can tell me signs, how do you know if they are telling the truth and how i can really ask a 3 year old girl about it without planting seeds, she has said on 3 different occasions that somone was touching her down there but we cant confront them witgourt a huge fued but we have told dfs but they didnt really do anything at all we want to be sure sure before we start causing huge problems but we do not want to just wonder anymore

Answer 1

you have to make her feel comfortable make her laugh while asking her about it. Ask things like "did someone tickle you like mummy and daddy do??" while tickling her at the same time on the ribs or something. and ask her to show where they tickled her on a teddy of hers. But if you cant get anything a direct approach may be the only way. there are so many thing that could point to her being abused like nightmares unusual aggressiveness trying to release frustration. i hope this has been of some help

Answer 2

I would keep distance from the person you are suspecting of this awful behavior. And I would look for a professional pyschologist or therapists in your area that could determine if what your daughter is saying is true. Mostly likely, she isn't lying.
This is situation that should not be taken lightly. Sexual abuse is a horrible thing to happen to anyone and the effects on the child are 100X worse. Seek some help in determining and distinguishing the facts and exactly who is involved. I wouldn't confront the person directly, I would ask the pyschologist what steps you should take against this person. Of course, it would most definitely be contacting the local authorities.
My husband is a victim of sexual abuse and I have seen first hand what it did to him. But he wasn't as lucky as your daughter, to have parents like you who show concern about the safety and well being of your child. Go with your gut instinct!

Answer 3

Take her to a doctor. She needs to be checked out. If she has been sexually abused at such a young age, it could potentially cause physical problems in the future, as well as psychological problems. A doctor would be better able to determine if she has actually been abused.
As far as this causing a feud - SHE is the important one here, so don't let people intimidate you. I am 32 years old and I was abused as a small child and I still have occasional problems with dreams and such. She needs you to be on her side.
If you can stop the abuse now (if there is, in fact, abuse) you will save her so much heartache and self-destruction in the future. She may not even remember it.
Please, please get her some help ASAP.

Answer 4

Call child services or take her to the ER now! Those are signs of sexual abuse. Nothing normal could explain the color. The bleeding could be from a rash, but you didn't mention one. It is your duty to get help for that little girl. I would not inform the mother unless you call her and tell her her option is to come with you to the hospital (and have her follow you and the child in her own vehicle, that way she can't drive off with the child) or tell her you will call the cops right away. This is serious and that child needs to be examined. It may be that the mother is not aware of the situation, but how can you be sure? The only one to worry about is the little girl that is in your care. Good Luck and please let us know what you decide.

Answer 5

Is the child potty trained?? If so has the child started haveing accidents that are out of charcter for the child? This is a sticky situation. Has the child named a person that has touched her there? Can you use a doll and explain good touch VS bad touch and have her point to the doll where she wes touched.
You may need leagal advice.

Answer 6

My family went thru a very similar situation. Generally where there is smoke there is fire. Since a child of this age can be a particularly bad witness and tell confusing and disjointed things there is nothing you can do personally. This is best referred to a professional social worker of school counsellor to deal with. Contact your areas child and family services or similar child protection agency, tell them what you know and let them deal with it. It would be best for everyone if this is dealt with professionally.

Answer 7

I am not a professional on this subject..BUT I would interview the child on various subjects and see if she lies about everything. Sometimes children make up stories for attention. Also, check if she has any mental problems (ADD). Well, I really hope she wasn't abused.

Answer 8

kids that age do not lie about things like that. i was sexually abused when i was 4 and when i told someone they belived me and my dad is in prison for it for 20-30 years

Answer 9

3 yr old don't lie, either they have seen someone or something has happened to them, call the police and report it, don't worry about starting a feud, protect the child.

Answer 10

find a site on the net that deals with that issue and go from there.

hope she was not abused.

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