I am not very good at sex. Truth be told, I am very nervous and timid. I am getting married in June and I know I will be terrible in the bedroom on the wedding night. Ifind it hard to get an erection when I am nervous (which is all the time when sex is concerned) and I find it hard to keep one. My fiancée is apparantly too overweight to go on the pill, so we have to use condoms. She doesn't, however, like the feel of them. I am concerned that perhaps she doesn't actually like the feel of sex, and the condoms are an excuse. When we do have sex (approximately four times per year) I have to withdraw. This isn't a very good method of contraception and it worries us such that every month we take a pregnancy test (her weight also affects her periods and she often misses them). She has never been pregnant (yet) though.
Anyway, I only want serious answers here - no mickey taking and no insulting. If you are under 18, don't bother to answer. My question is, how do I get better?
2007-02-07 02:50:56 · 2 answers · asked by Mawkish 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's always better to get a consult from a doctor. Do not be ashamed of your situation, i think it's very normal and common.
I believe condoms are not an excuse for her, some women may not like the feel of them, especially some condom types which are too thick. I'm sure she doesn't think you have a major problem as a couple. Otherwise she wouldn't be marrying you!
First talk to your fiancee and then go to the doctor with her. That looks like the best advise to be given to you.
2007-02-07 03:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About the birth control, get her on the needle it is more effective for overweight women. Pull and pray is no fun, and eventually she will be knocked up.
Try having a few drinks first, don't get totally drunk, but a little buzz can lower your inhibations and make you not so nervous. Ask what she likes.
2007-02-07 11:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋