i just told my parents......?

Question

that i'm pregnant last night. i feel like i've let my whole family down. and i know the father is not going to take off and leave but they keep telling me that he is and i'm basically going to end up a nobody. i need some good success stories from teenage moms that stayed with or didn't stay with the father of their child. please i know i'm only 19 and i don't need to hear any negative things right now.... i've heard enough from my own blood thank you

Answer 1

My current wife did it. She eventually had two other kids, got a law degree, a PhD and is working overseas in a job she really loves. There is no reason why you can't still achieve your dreams. You will just need to do it with a child on your hip.

Answer 2

Well, you can do it. My mom did it. She and my father were married for 16 years. She however didn't finish high school. Her family was ashamed so she and my father eloped and she dropped out of school. She is 39 now and has just gotten her GED. She's also planning on becoming a LPN. I had my daughter when I was 18. I graduated high school a few months early. Thank God I did that because I finished before I gave birth. Her father and I have been together for 4 years now. We just got married this past december. I was in college last year but had to drop out. However, things are better now so I will once again be going back this fall. I'm majoring in nursing. I guess the nursing thing runs in my family...lol. Just remember that you can do it. Don't listen to people who put you down because you do NOT need that. Good luck and congratulations to your and your boyfriend.

Answer 3

You know, single parents make the best parents!! I can say this, because I am one. Mine is 7 now, but my parents were against the marriage (which had already happened) from day one. All I got was negative everythings. The best advice I can give you is put your head up and let your family think whatever they want.

They can only hurt your feelings if *YOU* let them. Your mom maybe shocked that you have chosen this path, but she'll come around, give her time.

You will not be a nobody, you'll be the best parent ever. If your boyfriend wants to make this work then is he willing to marry you? You two need to talk all of this out, there are going to be some major changes in your life now.

Don't stress.. it will all work out!
Good luck!

Answer 4

I was 20 with my first child, and it was the best thing I ever did. The father, my now husband, was pushing towards abortion, because our relationship was a bit rocky back then and our living and money situation was no better. My parents also pushed for me to have one. I had an abortion scheduled and couldn't, wouldn't show up for it. I felt an indescrible connection with my baby, even though they say the baby is a tiny spec, at that point, but I felt love and life growing inside me. When you want something more then anything, you can make it work no matter what the conditions are. It's not easy, we were in debt for a long time, living on credit cards. My husband cried tears of joy when our baby was born, his world changed for the better. Anything, else was a non facter and unimportant. We made it threw the hard times, and today are slowly getting out of debt. But, we have the most valuable thing in the world today, our child and that makes us rich.

Answer 5

You will never be a nobody. I was a teenage Mom and I made it on my own. My children are now 29 and 30. They have turned out pretty good. Have faith in yourself, get couselling from either parenting groups or single parenting groups. Make sure you have medical insurance for you and the baby. Unfortunately for me, the father of my children didn't want the responsibility and left. It just made me stronger and I loved my child enough to make it work. You will do great! With or without the father.

Answer 6

19 isn't too bad. it's not like you're still in high school. just try to work and save up as much money as you can before the baby is born. then you can get a place of your own, maybe a 1 bedroom apartment. if you want to go to college many places give you free child care if you are a student, just look into it. you can also get grants and student loans ect.

or if you dont want to go to college right now, get a job at a child care center, you can usually get either free or discounted care for your baby and have a full time job.

my sister is married and 19, she turns 20 next month and just found out 2 days ago that she's prengnant.

Answer 7

Well if your parents will help you your life can be just as normal and or better than the rest of us mothers . My cousin was 15 when she got preg & so was her boyfriend . With the help of her parents and his they both finished high school ,she had a part time job . Went on to a 4 year college and is a nurse and I envy her sucess . Her now husband works for her father .But not everyones parents are able to help as much as my cousins did . Her family is wealthy ,they own there own buisness,so that helped . But your parents dont need to own their own buisnes tohelp you if their soooo concered about your life ,thay can help u , to make sure youe a success. I had my first child a boy when i was 6 days from being 20 not that much older than u life is'nt the best but we have had another baby a girl both pregnancies were planned . Unless your rich you can never "afford a baby" but trust me you'll get your baby whatever it needs . Again you dont have to be rich but it'd be nice . Baby your life is'nt ruined -it may be a little harder . But it's so worth ii

Answer 8

I'm not a teenager but i am pregnant and not married to the father (oh I'm 32 weeks) and he is still around, just like he said he would be! Of course we live together also, but that doesn't really matter.
As for your family.....listen to my story, I am a the typical "daddy's girl" and telling him was so hard i couldn't do it my mom did. He called me as soon as she told him and told me it was the dumbest thing i have ever done and blah blah blah, i just hung up the phone. The next day i called back home to my parents house to talk with my sister and my dad answered and he was happy and excited about having his first grandchild!
Your parents will come around if not before then definitely when the baby is born....!

I wish you the best luck with everything!

Answer 9

Babies are a blessing and the only one stopping you from achieving your hopes and dreams is yourself. Are you planning on going to college? I know that many schools offer free or cheap childcare for students with children. Also, there are many excellent online programs you could utilize. If you continue to pursue the same goals as if you would if you were not pregnant, them I'm sure you're parents will feel a little more at ease. Of course they're upset and disappointed now, but they'll come around. That baby is their blood too and if they choose not to be in his or her life, then it's their loss. Prove them wrong! Get an education and achieve all of your goals! Good luck and congrats on your baby!

Answer 10

I'm not a teenage mom or anything but, I have been thru the situation. My brother got a 19 yr old pregnant and her parents reacted the same way yours are. The outcome that I can give you is that when she had that little boy. Her mom could not have been happier, her dad on the other hand is still a jerk but, her mom is happier than either. They will see in the end that they are getting a grandchild out of this situation.Just don't get stressed out about it, that isn't good for you or the baby on the way. :) Good luck to you and your baby!!!!

Answer 11

Guess what??? I know you can do it. I got pregnant at 17. Right at the end of my junior year in high school. Got married to the daddy right before I started my senior year. Graduated 1/2 year early and had my daughter 1 week later. ***Fast forward 8 years*** Happily married to the daddy for 9 years!!! We live in a 3 bedroom house, we both drive nice cars (in fact we have 4) and we are currently expecting our 4th little one. I am a stay at home mom (LOVE IT) and hubby works for the government. He has had the same job for 10 years and provides VERY well for us. We do NOT live off the state for anything. It is nice. Nobody thought we could do it either. Just gave us more motivation to do it and show them all. You can do it. Good luck