I am invited to a good friends wedding and I am unable to make it. I will be going to the bridal shower and will be giving a gift there. Do i still have to give another gift for the wedding even though I will not be attending?
2007-02-07 02:44:25 · 27 answers · asked by Heather 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Officially, the etiquette is that if you do not go to the wedding, you do not have to give a gift. If you do not go to the bridal shower, you do not have to give a gift for that, either. If you go to both, you give a gift at both. If you go to neither, you are not obligated to give a gift at all.
That said, many people in your situation would give a wedding gift anyway. And almost everyone gives a gift to a friend for a wedding if they cannot go to either, although it is properly not necessary. It is just a show of friendship and support.
I recommend buying them a small gift and a card, just to show your support. If you gave a gift at the bridal shower already, your wedding gift does not have to blow them away or anything. Just get them something small and sentimental.
2007-02-07 02:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Since you plan on going to the Bridal shower and giving a gift you don't have to give a gift for the wedding. But I would send them a card with a nice giftcard in it so they can pick out something they like. Bridal shower gifts are normally given to the bride for the honeymoon night. Wedding gifts are normally for the 2 of them. Gift card would work.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 03:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by mstigger_78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emily Post's book of etiquette says an invitation requires a gift, whether attending or not. A wedding announcement does not require a gift. Traditionally, all gifts are sent to the bride prior to the wedding.
2007-02-08 07:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by brassinpocket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO give a gift, even if you can't attend. According to the fourth annual Lenox Gift-Giving and Etiquette survey, nearly 40 percent of people don't always send a gift to celebrate a wedding they can't attend. Sending a gift indicates your support and best wishes for the happy couple who are starting their lives together.
2007-02-07 10:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by myview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that would be up to you. I wouldn't expect a gift from a person (even a close friend) who can't attend my wedding. But I really don't expect gifts at all, if people give them, that's nice, but it's not a requirement for them if they attend the wedding. I just want to have my close family and friends share in my day. Good luck.
2007-02-07 02:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I may be old fashioned and the Book of Etiquette may be re-written, but I was trained that an invitation was responded to with a gift, whether you attend or not.
That said, it does not dictate the price you would spend. Check their registry and pick up a complimentary gift that requires only a small amount of postage and enclose a gracious note.
2007-02-07 11:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by derbyfilly513 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a Hawaiin dress would be fine, a halter top, or a dressy sundress suitable for evening would be fine. I would imagine that a gift is expected, though I personally would spend according to how well you know her, and as you might for an anniversary. Check the religious gift stores for ideas, somebody surely makes a keepsake that says something about renewal vows, a collector's plate or the like. Barring that, something keepsake in crystal, or a nice picture frame. Gee,if you could find it, one of those box of fruit sent out every couple months clubs , if you could find one that did tropical fruits or pineapple, that would be cool, and different, or just send it out once. The company sends out a card to the recipient, saying it is coming. For you, cut out a picture of it, or copy it off the internet, and put that in a card, saying this is what they are going to get. I know Figi's does fruit, don't know the names of any others.
2016-05-24 02:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, but what you could do that would be a very nice gesture is to find out where they will be staying on their wedding night and have some champagne and fruit sent to their room, or a breakfast in bed by the hotel. A fun surprise like that would be heartfelt and would let them know that you are thinking of them even though you could not attend.
2007-02-08 06:53:04 · answer #8 · answered by designerista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cardinal rule is invitation=gift, whether or not you attend the wedding, annoying but true. This would be true even if you attended and gifted at several showers. Be glad she's at least a good friend, I find it much more disturbing when I'm invited by someone I hardly know. That usually means they're just pumping people for presents & I find that very rude.
2007-02-07 02:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If you got an invatation to both the shower & the wedding I would suggest you get them a gift for both, even though you can't make the wedding.
2007-02-07 04:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by MEYost 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋