why do i keep letting him come bk for more sex everytime?

Question

we had sex on the 5th of febuary 07 the last time we had sex was in november 06 it isnt a realtionship i love him so much so wen he asks me for sex or ask to see me i go running to him whats wrong with me.. i dnt have any recept for myself and i want to have some but i dnt recieve recept from anyone!! and i get into such bad sitiations where these guys make out they want a realtionship when they only use me for sex,, iam not just going to get used for sex!! i need to tell this man we cant keep having sex! how do i tell him? or how do i recist the temptaion of seeing him wenever he says??

i like him i do enjoy the sex in the begging but then he gets so rough and i dnt like it! and it hurts! why do i do it if hurts? thats how much i love him and he is a addtiction a BAD ADDICTION!!

Answer 1

Have you considered a set of moral standards to live your life by? They don't need to be imposed by someone else, you can create a set that helps your expectations and desires. Otherwise you will always do what your whims and hormones push you into, and that makes you an easy woman. I personally respect women more with a set of moral rules, it makes them more desirable and impressive.

Women without moral standards are more like whores, and they aren't as attractive or desirable.

Answer 2

You dont have respect for yourself so others do not respect you this guy knows you are easy and can get it from you whenever he can't get it from any one else. He knows is you are this easy with him you are probably this easy with other guys, so he is not looking at you for a long term realtionship. I don't mean to hurt your feelings but you are known as what we call around here a free ride. The only way to get respect is to change your ways. Tell him the next time he calls that you won't do that anymore. He needs to find another call girl. Stick to it no matter how often he calls or pressures. He will use every tactic in the book. Including words like "I love you I did not realize how much until I couldn't have you." He will use these words to break you down because he knows this is what you are looking for. Once he breaks you down and you have sex with him again he will go right back to the old ways. Your respect and relationships need to come from within first. Respect yourself say no! Look for a guy who does not want sex on the first 10 dates and you will find yourself a true man who respects you for who you are.

Answer 3

You love the sex I could only hope. If you do not is only a bandaid for the loneliness you feel. You want someone to love you. Sex is not love. It is a way to express love. You are right. You are being used. Before anyone can love you you have to love yourself. Why do you not love yourself? Am sure you are a good person. Don't look to others for love that you already have in yourself. Find it babe. You will be so happy that you did. Then you will realize your dreams. Please think about this and act on it. Have a good day.

Answer 4

You let him come back, cuz you don't have anybody else. Take out an add. At least try to get some upgrade in the parts dept, any improvement will do.

Answer 5

Just say NO. There is nothing wrong with you. It is him that is at fault, he is USING YOU!!!! wake up and see that he is treating you like a cheap tart that he can use at his beck and call. Change your number, don't answer his calls, stay away from him. Once you can see how badly he is treating you, you will soon change your opinion of him.

Answer 6

Others can only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. By what you wrote, it appears you already know this and are struggling to change it. What you are doing is accepting any crumbs of affection that he dishes out to you. In his mind he looks upon you as someone he can use because he feels he can. You have to stop seeing sex as a sign of love, because in your case it isn't. My advice to you is to seriously consider therapy to help you with finding out what it is that makes you allow others to disrespect and use you in this way. Until you learn to value and respect yourself no one else will. Any person who allows themselves to be used appears desperate and needy and leads people to take advantage of them. Please love yourself. Look upon yourself as a person who needs your protection and love against others who can use and hurt you. Your inner self in crying out for help and you have to be the one to answer that call. Stop this self destructive behaviour or you run the risk of getting hurt over and over again. Hope I was able to help you in some way. Best to you always!

Answer 7

tell him no more p u ssy 4 him unless he commitss,,,, but i know its hard,,, u c i do it to a gf of mine,, but i can get away with it becuz i know how much she loves me and has sex with me hoping it will make me want her......
bu the trick is,,,, even though u love him u have to make him wqonder if u do,,, so dnt call him stop returing his calls stop answering his calls,,, then one day l9r down tell him he need to make up his mind.........
n e way wish u luck,, but if u cant do that jus try n njoy d sex....

Answer 8

JUST SAY NO. DON'T ANSWER HIS CALLS, DON'T RESPOND TO HIS EMAILS, DON'T TALK TO HIM. EASY. IT'S DONE. LIKE A BAND AID......JUST RIP IT OFF, LET THE PAIN FLOW AND DEAL WITH IT.

EVENTUALLY, YOU'LL JUST LEARN TO BECOME NUMB TO ANY EMOTIONS. LIKE ME! IT'S NOT AS BAD AS IT SOUNDS.

Answer 9

What the f*ck is recept ? I have sex with my ex still cause I want to get laid. You are having sex with him because you like him.

Answer 10

IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANY RESPECT FOR YOURSELF THEN GO AHEAD AND HAVE SEX WITH HIM. IF YOU RESPECT YOURSELF IT SHOULD NOT BE TOO HARD TO TELL HIM NO.