i am just looking for opinions from anyone and everyone involving this matter. i noticed that this morning they brought up tha fact that some parents have a glass of wine during diner which would b almost the same as having a glass during a playdate. some say its wrong to have a drink during a playdate and others say its okay. i truely do not think that it should be as big of a deal as it has become considering the fact that there are parents who go out to diner and then drive with their children in the car after having a drink or two. i cant see that play date moms are jumping into a car with their children as soon after their drink as parents who are out to diner. just looking for opinions and they are all welcome:)
2007-02-07 02:32:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I believe that if you have small children in your presence you need all your wits about you. Small children can get into trouble very quickly and need constant attention. Drinking any alcohol while caring for or transporting children is very dangerous. Parents should wait for their drink til they get home and the kids are in bed for the night.
2007-02-07 02:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Country girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, did nobody read the question? It's not about drinking at playdates, the whole thing revolved around parents drinking a glass of wine WITH DINNER. Someone on the show compared it to drinking at a playdate.
So, I think that drinking one drink with dinner is completely different, one because you are in your own home with your own children. Two, you are not responsible for ensuring that a large group of children play together safely. Three, one drink with food is going to absorb a lot differently than several drinks or a drink without any food.
I would certainly reconsider if I was in the presence of children I didn't know, who didn't know the rules or priniciples guiding our home, etc. But even if we're having a grill-out with a family friend or two, I'll have a beer. I'm not falling down drunk, and it doesn't affect my parenting.
2007-02-07 14:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, I think a little glass of wine isn't a bad thing to have while your kids are having a playdate. After all, most playdates last for what? About 2 hours or so? If you just have one glass of wine with your friend while your kids play together, you should be good to go by the time the playdate's over. Besides, if you're the mother of a toddler, I'm assuming some sort of substance use is in order to calm your nerves. I personally would go for a coffee instead of wine if I had a child on a playdate, but then again, I'm not really a huge wine fan. Maybe a beer, but there again, I'm fine to drive after one beer. It's all about moderation.
2007-02-07 10:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess this was a feature on the Today show? I did not see it, but it sounds like it was a really slow news day...
Anyway - I think the whole "Desperate Housewives" thing has gotten people thinking (in a good way) that it is absolutely acceptable for you to be an adult around your children. This includes enjoying a drink responsibly. My friends & I have the occasional glass of pinot grigio or beer on a hot summer day while the kids are in the paddle pool. I've gotta say, times like those are exactly how I pictured being a SAHM. I see nothing wrong with it and am kind of surprised that it warranted a news story.
2007-02-07 11:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lyn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it depends...If you have ONE glass of wine when you first arive at your play date and then maybe two hours later you go home then maybe it's not a big deal. But how many people can be that strict about it. Me personally, I'm a recovering addict and I think that I see things alot different. I wouldn't do it because I know the dangers of drinking and driving. Now, I've been clean for 5 years and my drug of choice was prescription drugs not alcohol. I've never really been a drinker I don't really like. But I do have a glass of wine now and again. Mostly on a holiday or something. However, My bf does drink and I don't even allow my son to go anywhere with him if I even think he's gonna have one beer with my son. I just don't think it's a good idea.
2007-02-07 10:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think a lot of people do this. It would be different if it's the babysitter drinking a glass or 2 but not 2 responsible parents having a drink while the kids play. As long as no one gets sloshed
2007-02-07 14:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by sassssy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think its silly, I mean come on! Yeah some people do go out to dinner and have a drink with there kids there, personally I dont! I dont go out to a bar, well not often (I have been 3 times since I was 21...6 yrs ago!) because I prefer to drink at home when my kids are in bed asleep if I do drink, not that often! I just think its safer! If all you can get together with friends for is drinking are they really friends?
2007-02-07 10:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by Bunker J 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I love wine, but I don't think that it is really appropriate as a regular thing to do on playdates. If it is a special occasion then, sure, have a drink. Otherwise, I don't see how that one glass of wine that is going to make you tired is going to improve the day!!
2007-02-07 10:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by mom-knows-best 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋