I met this guy and we have met up about 5 times etc, but I feel at a loose end because he only texts my like twice a week or mite only call at the weekend. I feel as if I dont know where I stand. He's a businessman so he's always 'busy in the office.' Am I being made a fool of? He never replies to my text messages, perhaps he will call me 2 days after or something. I am constantly anxious and often burst into tears without really knowing why. I often feel worthless. He is also 26 years old and im just 18. Is he only after one thing? should I cut him off? Someone help me!
2007-02-07 02:22:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get RID of him!!!!! i once dated a guy that was like that and you know what, last time he texted me i never answered back and guess what he didnt try to call or text he just dropped it. So i was a good thing i didnt answer back because i believe that when a guy likes you, he likes you and will call you. See what this guy is doing is just keeping you in arms reach so that when he has no one else or nothing to do, that is when he will decide to call you or text you. He doesn't like you, sorry to say but you should just move on. He doesn't take you serious, your 18 he is 26 you guys have a huge age gap between each other so he looks at you as someone to just have in arms reach because i bet you your age plays a big part in this. You should not have him make you feel worthless, no one should make you feel that way. Besides you don't want a guy like that, look he is 26 and acts immature by not caling you back. Cut him off sweetie and find someone that make you feel like a million bucks, YOUR WORTH IT!!!
2007-02-07 02:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Nisha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cry over him because you are putting all your energies into worrying about whether you are good enough for him (you are), whether he is interested (he may be, but he's either playing hard to get or doesn't think about how you feel on the other end), whether he's too old (there is a generation difference there, but there is between me and my boyfriend -9 1/2 years- so it may or may not be an issue).
But you're at a stage where you should be having fun and not getting bogged down in heavy relationship issues (especially when, from what it sounds like, you're not even sure you have a relationship). So, start respecting yourself. Go out with your friends (after all, it's legal now), meet other guys, flirt and don't take it any further if you like, let him chase you a little bit. Above all, don't let him dictate what you think and feel. You need to fill yourself full of confidence and the way to do that is to get out there and socialise.
We've all been there so you're not alone. Get yourself dolled up this weekend and go have a ball. He doesn't need to be there. Good luck!
2007-02-07 10:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by hevs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your crying cause you don't know where you stand at in this relationship. The next time you talk to him you need to ask him why he does not return your text or calls. He's not that busy that he can't ever call you or return a text, he's a jerk and it sounds like he probably has something going on with someone else. He might not, but something is not right about him. If he doesn't tell you a valid reason why he didn't contact you back, if I were you, I would stop pursuing him. He wants to keep you hanging around for some reason, but he's not willing to give it all his effort. It could be for just one thing.
2007-02-07 10:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either has a girlfriend or a wife, maybe a fiance. Honey, anyone that makes you feel this bad is playing you. Don't text him anymore, don't call and if he calls tell him to stop calling. You don't need this heartache. You're only 18. Go out, have fun, get with some cutie your own age and have a blast. Love should be fun when you're 18, not tragic.
Forget this creep and move on.
2007-02-07 10:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is using you hun. I know that isnt what you want to hear, but i cant tell you anything else. It simply wouldnt be what i see.
He is being with you when its convenient for him. This isnt fair to you. He only calls when its convenient for him. Again, wrong. A relationship takes mutual respect and he isnt giving it to you. Honestly, I would question if he has a gf/wife/fiance. This is what it sounds like to me. But he is definately not giving you what he should if the two of you are in a relationship.
You need to drop him sweety. Find a man that will treat you with respect. He doesnt deserve you waiting and you dont deserve to have to put your life on hold in the hopes of getting a call or text from him.
Get you a real man hun. Dont text him, and when he attempts to get ahold of you, dont allow him to. Mark the slate clean and move on.
You deserve MUCH better.
Good luck
2007-02-07 10:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is find in yourself to detach yourself from the situation. i know it seems nearly impossible but it is the only way you will ever truly feel content without him in your life. you have to get used to the idea that he is not worth any of this. and by the sound of it...he really isnt! guys take over every part of a girl and their life once the girl opens up to them both mentally and physically, but they may not be fully aware of that and can be insensitive at the most crucial times. he's older, and unfortuntly he probably has done this a million times before, so be the bigger person and do what u know is truly best for you. he may be wonderful but he isnt the 'one'. its infatuatuion and u are so much stronger then this. be good to urself, worry about whats important in your life and do what YOU need to do to make yourself happy w/o this scum bag. who cares if he doesnt call you or text you? is he that much better than you to make the harbor the responsibilty of whether your truly happy??? delete his #, and all the previous texts and move on with your life. your thanks yourself later. good luck and stay strong.
2007-02-07 10:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him loose. You don't need someone like that in your life because you're better than that. I think that he is only after one thing especially if he don't call or txt like he should. I'm gone tell you what my friend told me a guy that brings tears to your eyes isn't worth being with. Take my advice and find you a man that's gone treat you right.
2007-02-07 10:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would cut him out. A guy who is really interested in you would ask you out to dinner, and follow up with you soon after you text or call him. I am assuming you've slept with him, and this is the reason why you hear from him sometimes, cause he wants to sleep with you. I would recommend you move on. It's better for you.
2007-02-07 10:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this position before, not as severe because I didn't cry over him, but I understand. Stop texting him, wait for him to come to you and you will find out whether he is just busy, or playing you. If he knows that you are not sweating over him he may realize what he was missing. Good luck!
2007-02-07 10:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Morals 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been seeing a man just sex really he never calls me ever!!! im always calling him and its so rubbish!! why should we do all the work! no lol we can find better men then these ediots!
i was inlove with this man he is 25 and im 16 ya its but age gap! but i was mad ABOUT him but really some men at that age are just sex addicts which this one was but some of thwm dnt want to be seeing anyone they just want fun like fun to men is sex so really u need to ring him and ask him where do u stand look at my questions because im confused! and its not right being confused hope i helped
2007-02-07 10:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋