i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. (that might not seem long but he's my first so i think we're doing pretty well).
anyway, he's the absolute perfect guy: kind, considerate, thoughful, good personality and so on. The only thing we're lacking is the showing of emotion. he says he's never loved anyone before, therefore i dont want to pressure him into saying it without meaning it, but how do i get him to be more romantic. (eg tell me how much i mean to him or so on)?
i dont want to tell him what i want him to do or say to me because then when he does it, it might seem fake. btw we're both rather shy.
sorry btw for the long post. i know it might not sound like a big problem, but it's really bothering me.
any advice would be appreciated, thanks a bunch!
2007-02-07 02:05:00 · 16 answers · asked by blithe_vow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys have a much harder time opening up than girls do. He sounds like a great guy so if I were you I'd accept his actions and the way he treats you as saying he loves you. We don't always come up with the right words to say and sometimes don't know the right time to say them. Actions speak louder than words, so I think by the way he treats you , you should be able to know how he feels about you. Give him a little more time. The longer you are together, the more comfortable he will become and the words will follow. Enjoy your time together and don't try to fix something that's not broken.
2007-02-07 02:17:31 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're enjoying the relationship in every other way, I wouldn't sweat this this early in the game. As couples mature, they learn different ways to please each other and show their affection. Not everyone openly speaks of it, but then out of the blue they do something so considerate, it leaves you speechless.
There are other ways to display affection besides wearing your heart on your sleeve and speaking of it often. In time you will learn that this is probably a good thing.
A gentle touch, a subtle sexy look, a quiet, intimate smile. You have much to look forward to. Don't try to change him, try to grow with him. Good luck.
2007-02-07 02:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how this is causing you pain and concerns regarding his love for you. We all crave to be told we are loved. We all need that reassurance of love. Your guy is shy, this experience is new to him. He just might be scared to open up to you, as this gives him feelings of being vulnerable. Give him time, stop pressuring him, try to get your reassurance of his love in more positive ways, as by way of his actions. In time as your relationship develops he will become more comfortable to open up to you. If you pressure him too much it can have the opposite effect that will lead him to hesitate opening up his feelings as a fear of being judged and rejected. My advice to you would be to be patient and give this some time. Good luck to you both!
2007-02-07 02:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay more attention to what he does then what he says, Not everyone is good at expressing emotions but if he shows it in every other way be content with that. Would you rather he say it and not show it?
2007-02-07 02:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let things fall into place, even if you guys are shy if he feels like he loves you he will say it all in good time. Just give him a chance to open up a little bit.
2007-02-07 02:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not want to take the relationship to the level of intimacy just yet. Just let things happen naturally. Not to be harsh but maybe he is not that into you at this point.
2007-02-07 02:12:24 · answer #6 · answered by Myself 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just working up the guts to say that it would mean a lot to you if he would just say, "I love you," now and then.
On the other hand, is he showing it without words? That's the way I am with my boyfriend, and we do fine.
2007-02-07 02:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is hard to admit, but I'm perfect except for that one thing. lol
2016-05-24 02:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times guys don't like to say it,but wait one day it may be in card
2007-02-07 02:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it would be nice to hear those things. He can't read your mind tell him what you want. Love is a powerful word don't push it. Only use it when you truly mean it.
2007-02-07 02:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by space case 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋