how would you feel if you know your best friend made an abortion?

Question

my friend did.... and i dont know what to think about her. she told me that she wouldnt had take care of a child that wouldnt be fair for the baby.

SHould i belive her???? I supported her while she told me she was pregnant but now its like .......HARD!!!! im not agree with abortion but she told me it was the best it could happened. her parents, they both agreed she wasnt responsible enough to have a child but also said they respected wtv decision she made...

what you think about this?

Answer 1

If she really is your friend then you should accept that she felt this was what she really needed to do and support her.

Answer 2

You have to know that not everyone shares your viewpoint on important issues, even your best friend.
Be a good friend a be supportive of your friend. I'm sure it was a very hard decision for her to make and she'll most likely go through all the stages of grief as if losing a child and she'll need your support whether you agree with what she did or not.

If you honestly can't get past it and you will continue to judge her and look down on her for what she did, then it's probably in both your best interests to gradually cease contact. A true friend does not judge.

Answer 3

Every woman has to make the decision for themselves. If a woman decides to choose abortion, it is something that MUST be thought about very seriously. Once you go through with the procedure ,you have got to be able to live with the decision. There is no going back. If your girlfriend and her parents explored alternate options and still chose to have the abortion, I think you should still support her. Obviously your beliefs differ from your girlfriends, however, this is such a PERSONAL issue, that to judge her would be unfair.We as humans, should try not to judge each other, for we never know what tomorrow will bring.

Answer 4

I'm not religious, but I believe everyone has the right to live-that right shouldn't be able to be taken away by ANYONE-only who ever or whatever god is. Its very hard when we have beliefs to think our friends can do something like that, but that is what she thought was best for the child. So what if somebody has a child and then-lets say he/she is five years old, they lose their job, home, etc.....Is it the right decision to kill that child just because you cant provide a living? I'm not placing the blame on her or anything, we need to understand that we are all human and thats what she thought was best, even though others will disagree with her. What matters is that if shes a good friend to you, you need to try and support her with it.

Answer 5

well i dont really get it b/c u say her parents told her she wasnt responsible enough for a child but they never said anything about her doing the stuff to get pregnant. i think if u aint responsible enough to take care of a child then you shouldn't be having sex to make a child. so i say having an abortion was very wrong. i have always thought about abortion as killing an innocent little baby. so i totally dont agree with her for doing that.

Answer 6

I think your friend trusted you enough to tell you the truth and I also beleive it's her choice! A woman does have the right to decide if she wants a baby, however, I don't think abortion should be used as a means of birth control. Anyone can make a mistake once, respect her enough for admitting she wasn't ready to be a mother. there are alot of women out there who should've realized the same thing before bringing a child up in abuse and/or neglect cuz they weren't ready to be a real mother.

Answer 7

with the guidance of her parents dear, she made the right decision. I am against abortion too but when it comes to teenage pregnancies, I have to agree to it if the teenager is not able to raise a child.. just think how her future will change with a child in it at such a young age.. just be supportive, she needs it i think, it is not easy to loose a child, even fetus..

Answer 8

What wasn't fair was to kill the baby! Regardless of your friend's situation, the baby was totally innocent and did not deserve to die. The baby had no say and no choice and was brutally dismembered piece by piece. Take a look at what your friend did to her child:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

There are 2 million couples waiting to adopt children right now, and your friend could have chosen any family that suited her if she wasn't willing to raise her child.

I would have no respect for someone who did this to a child, unless they truly repented and admitted that what they had done was wrong.

Answer 9

Abortion is a sticky subject.. I would never have one, but who am I to judge if someone else decides that they do not want a child at that point in time. I do, however, get rather irritated with people who do not prevent this in the first place. We live in 2007, there is a ton of birthcontrol methods.. I think people having sex should use birthcontrol and prevent pregnancy to begin with.

Answer 10

If she is your friend you should just support her decision. You may not agree with it, but it's not you that had to decide what to do. If she knew she was not ready for a child, then it's her decision what she does with it. You should not think any different of her just because of this. People are different and have different ideas and beliefs on all sorts of things. I would believe her if she was my friend.

Answer 11

i dont agree with abortion..but it is HER choice and you seem to care....so do what her parents say and respect her decision...

also i would like to say that i got pregnant when i was 17..i wasnt sure what having a child entailed but i have never loved someone so much in my life. now im pregnant with my third child and i couldnt be happier