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You see, my nephew, 13, wants to play soccer in a team this spring. But in the past, he been quite a "quiter". We tried him out for Tae Kwon Doe, and he said that it was too much work, so we had to quit. We signed him up for football practice but he said he doesn't like it, so we had to quit. We've signed him up for swimming practice, but he said that he's afraid of the water and drowning, so we quit. I've asked him about this, and he said that he really wants to play this and will make a commitment. I'm happy for him for liking soccer and sports, but I don't want him getting into the habit of quiting, and it has cost his dad alot of money. What do you think we should do? Sign him up or not?

2007-02-07 00:58:13 · 4 answers · asked by Nick B. 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting Grade-Schooler

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Tell him that if he wants to play bad enough that he will have to work for it. Like making him mow grass, do household chores and pay him to do these things and then make him pay to sign up for soccer. This way he will get an idea of what he is losing out on. This will give him some idea of how much money he will losing out on if he were to quit. Let him know that there is alot of exercise involved in this game and he will have to hussle to be good at it. I wish you luck and hope all goes well. I love soccer.. but having a husband from Brasil makes it even more interesting.

2007-02-07 01:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sign him up. You dont want to discourage him if his interest is real. HOWEVER....DO NOT let him quit. By allowing him to quit, you show him that when things get hard, just quit and everything is alright with the world. NO NO NO....make him FINISH what he starts no matter how hard. Explain he never has to play again once the season is over, but he WILL finish what he starts. The end. Having children compete in sports is too expensive to simply throw away because it gets hard. Yeah, well life is hard and you better teach him that life lesson right now.

2007-02-07 09:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 2 0

I agree with the woman about not letting him quit this time. And making him earn the money to play soccor to give him an idea of the cost. As parents we must teach our children that in tough times we "keep on going" we don't quit. If he works and earns the money to play soccor he must sign a contract between his parents that he agrees to finish the season. And in the contract his parents agree to help in as much as possible to accomplish this goal. Buy the nets to put up in the back yard a soccor ball to practice at home with mom and dad or you. Remember to praise him a lot for doing so well.

2007-02-07 12:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0 0

got to give it a shot. park districts are usually less expensive that traveling teams. try that first in case he doesn't like it. let him know at the start that quitting isn't an option. he has made a commitment to a team sport and that when one makes a commitment they have to stick to it. all my boys have joined something and have complained about it at one time or another. i'm not one to force competition but if they decided to try something they had to finish it. they usually were glad they decided to stick with it. the complaints were usually b/c they found they had to work a little harder than they thought they would or they were unfamiliar with the sport. when they understood better and became more comfortable, they were fine.sign him up. don't let him quit.

2007-02-07 20:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0 0

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