Should I do it!??

Question

I was in a 2 year relationship, I got pregnant and my boyfriend left me. He never helped mr while I was pregnant. I gave birth but I didn't put him in child support. I said that I didn't need the money I only wnated him to be in my daughter's life... But the truth is she is 9 months old and he has only seen her twices, when she was born and when she was 6 months old. He talks to me sometimes and he don't ask how is she. Only sometimes and in general "is everything fine?". He said he was going to help me with money, he has only giving me $120. Should I put him in child support???, I don't want him to get mad at me because at the begging I told him I wasn't going to do it, and I want to be his friend. And probably if I do it he will get more far away from our daughter cause he would see it like a charge. Evethough he has pay me so bad. But I can't take this anymore.

Answer 1

You should absolutely make him pay child support. It took two people to make this child, and it takes two people to support it. My daughter is 2 1/2 and her father does not see her, but I have made sure that he pays support. Why should he get away with no responsibility? Obviously he doesn't care about being your friend or being nice to you. You need to open your eyes and see him for what he really is. You are letting him get away with murder by doing this. Him being close to your daughter is his choice. If he lets the fact that he has to pay child support being a deciding factor at all in his relationship with her, then he is the absolute scum of the earth. This is his child! He should want to do everything possible to give her a good life, love her, and make her happy. You need to get to court ASAP! Good luck!

Answer 2

Just file for child support. Your a young single mother - and surviving on your own is going to get really tough when she gets older and her needs increase. Just do it now and get it over with. And hun, you don't need a friend you need a father-figure for your daughter. Wake Up! This isn't about the friendship between you and him it's about the relationship with his daughter. If he's mad about your filing for child support then tell him he should have kept it in his pants, now it's time to step up and take responsibility for his daughter. A simple phone call every once in a while is not how to be a parent! The least he can do is send some money! go for it!

Answer 3

I think you should do what's in the best interest of your daughter. If you need the child support, then I would do it. If you do not, then it might not be worth the hassel. I don't ask for child support even though I could use it just because I think that would have caused him to want to get some kind of revenge. He hasn't contacted me in 10 years and even though that hurts my daughter, I think it's better than him being in and out of her life and causing havoc. I am a firm believer that a father should help support his child it's just the price was to high for me. If that makes sense.

I hope this helps.

Answer 4

The fact of the matter is, that is his child. he has acknowledged that she is his child. He needs to help pay for her. First I would explain that you need the money to help with your daughter. See if he starts but if he does. I would start by talking to him first. because if you just slap him with a child support payment, then he might be an a$$ but if you calmly talk about it and make sure your put your daughter first then he might come around.
But it kind of sounds like, yeah he know he has a daughter but he's not really understanding the fact that he has a child. He needs to full understand that he has a child and what comes with having a child.

Answer 5

Girl he is a deadbeat. Put his a** on child support. You don't want to make him mad what about you and your baby. If you do it he's not going to see his daughter. Are you out of your mind? Sounds to me like if you do or you don't he would pretty much have the same relationship with her anyway. Your baby deserves much much better than that. Sweetie if you can't see that then maybe you need help too.

Answer 6

I think you should do it. Why should you take care of your child by yourself? You did not get pregnant by yourself. He needs to feel some kind of responsibility and you should not care if he gets mad because he is punishing you child by not being there for her. You told him that you would not do it if he is there for her but he is not so you need to do what is necessary for your baby. Taking care of your daughter should come before any man and you need to think about that. If he did not want a child, he should have kept his thing in his pants. If he was your friend, he will own up to his responsibilities and be a man and not a dead beat.

Answer 7

He's legally liable so take him down to china town!

He knows he should be giving you more so why don't you first say that you could really use some financial help. If he doesn't respond then I would take legal action, however doing this could ruin the "relationship that you have with him now. By the sounds of it however, it wouldn't be a huge loss. When he decided to poke you though, he consented that having a child is a risk and risks come with consequences. Tell him to pay up.

Answer 8

this guy is a cock sucking ********! He has a right to give u child support and its only gonna help u out so get all the money u can out of him! And as 4 not wanting 2 see his daughter this guy deserves a good slap in the face i'm sure u realize that too!

Answer 9

What difference does it make if he gets mad?
Would you rather keep a friend and go in poverty along with your child, or lose a friend and have your child gain a father?
Tell him to pay child support, and become active in his daughter's life. And if he doesn't, take him to court. It's that simple.

Answer 10

I say do it. It's not fair that you are single-handedly taking care of this child yourself. And seeing your daughter every six months is far from adequate. You have to think of your child BEFORE anything else because $120 a month is not going to stretch that much further when she starts to get older.