my 17 month old daughter is constantly winging,what can I do to make her happy?

Answer 1

Do not even try. 17 month olds whine and cry. Its a part of their nature, and is actually a part of the "terrible two's" (it comes early for some kids).

By allowing your child to learn to handle their own emotions, they grow up to be emotionally stable adults. It may seem cruel when they are this young, but you just have to let them scream and cry it out.

If you spend all of your time trying to make her happy, you aren't letting her learn to handle her own emotions, and you could also be creating a spoiled brat. Hate to say it that way, but its true. (Watch SuperNanny or Nanny 911 some time).

And its bad for the kid who IS a "spoiled brat" because deep inside, being the one in control scares the heck out of them. They get worse and worse and worse because they are hoping someone will step forward, be an adult, and stop them.

So just be calm, let her cry it out. You can be caring about her feelings without giving in to what she wants.


P.S. sometimes, whinyness that seems to come from nowhere stems from not getting enough sleep.

Answer 2

I have a 3 year old girl. When she gets in that mindset I tell her that I dont understand whiners. Now we joke about it when she whines and I say, "Would you like some cheese and crackers with that whine?" She laughs and stops. Its a learned behaviour type thing. If you react to change her or allow her to keep doing it, then she will only get worse. We have times when she is sad and I tell her its ok to cry, and she does. But other times i tell her whining is not understood in the house. She has a couple of books on whining and we talk about that and other emotional type things that she is dealing with. The main thing i have found is that you dont want to act like this is acceptable in every case.

Answer 3

I have a 5 year old who used to whine a lot. I started telling her that I can't understand her when she talks like that, and that she is hurting my ears when she makes those sounds. Well, it worked! Now, I do the same thing on her 2 year old brother. As soon as the whining starts, I just say "I'm sorry but I don't understand what you are saying." Then he talks in a "normal" voice!

Answer 4

Try to figure out what is the cause is she trying to tell you something and is just not old enough to talk yet and this becomes frustrating for babies at this age. It is normal for them to whine and have melt downs until they are old enough to express there feelings. Next time she start to whine or throw a tantrum. get down next to her and say i know you are just really mad and I understand how you are feeling right now. it worked with my kids but it's a long process until their communication skills get better.
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Answer 5

does she go to daycare or have interaction with other children her age? maybe shes just bored. when my son is home from daycare on the weekends he is whiny too because he has no one to play/run around with. so that's when we hop in the car and go into town he loves that cause he can see a lot of people, buildings, that sort of thing to keep him occupied.

Answer 6

take her to the doctor and find help from the closet and dearest.
maybee she finds tv or music boring or exciting every human is INDIVIDUIAL has she had plenty of time with dad and mum is she teething erm i am bloke so i best not in this depertment but thats the first in my mind.

Answer 7

Shes probably teething because when my stepmom was pregnant he was teasing but you can put some ambisol in the mouth rum it in there it will numb it.But don't let her swallow it.

Answer 8

after you have made certain there is nothing physically wrong with her i would suggest you get her to amuse herself
she is possibly only loking for attention and is her winging is getting on your nerves she knows (the wrong way) how to get it