I found out and pushed us to end. She told me too my face that she dont love me anymore (with watering eyes), She flirted with this guy off and on behind my back, i tried to stop it. So basicly yesterday we ended, but yesterday morning she begged me to stay home from work, all i do is blame myself now, she run into him at the mall and i guess she liked how he looked. I know all the rules of the game, but i let that go, i gave her all my heart and soul, i treated her like gold. I bought her a car a dog a diamond ring, i gave her everything and the sex was amazing, 2 to 3 times a day. Shes sixteen and im 21, yeah i acted overprotective, but i was givin her more and more freedom, i guess i showed too much emotion, we would argue and i would cry, she used too but stopped about 2 months ago. What can i do? I hurt so bad and have no one, i have no one to talk to. I cant go to her for comfort or talk to her, she left me for someone else. Please i need immediate help. This is day one
2007-02-07 00:27:26 · 20 answers · asked by importracer_6969 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can she look in my eyes and say she dont love me, but her eyes where watering? I used to be all she could see, her sis and best friend was jealous i had all her time and made her feel bad for being with me. At one point her friend told her to choose me or her, she broke up with me and we got back together. This was true love on both sides, i know. I never even thought about another girl while i was her. She didnt want my money or me to buy her things, i just did it. She begged me to quit my job and stay with her all the time. but i didnt cuz i needed money to support myself. We wasnt gonna get married for a few years, that just said we would. If you could only see in her eyes what i have, we loved each other from the first time we looked at each other. She is the only one that makes me happy the only one i feel safe with. I have no one anymore and cant figure out why i am alive.
2007-02-07 04:39:50 · update #1
Number One-she's 16 and you are 21-statutory rape/ Why? Because she's under age and not old enough to make informed decisions and you are an adult(at least chronologically!) and 5 years older. Number two-get over yourself. I work in domestic violence and the fact that you were "just giving her some freedom" is a big red flag! Be very glad that I'm not her mother, or I would be introducing you to the D.A.
2007-02-14 21:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by pitmanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK R-Kelly, my advice seeings how ur relationship is illegal at the moment. She is only 16, so therefore when you proposed, one thing was probably running through her head, actually probably a few things, 1. Im only 16 I cant get married, i have my whole life to live yet. 2. I've only dated like a few guys, how do i know he is THE ONE. and to be honest shed be right i mean being 16 the only things on her mind should be all the normal high school stuff, not worried about whether me and my boyfriend should get married. You probably just scared her. I would sit her down and tell her how you feel and let her know that if you REALLY, REALLY love her, that you will wait for her, make a pact that if by the time shes 18 or 19 you both still have feelings for each other than you will try it again. Until then i would just move on and wait it out
2007-02-14 17:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by artchic1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 21 she is 16 how did you really expect this to end? Reality is in most states sex with a 16yr old is illegal and you would be looking at time. 16 is way to young to be getting married as she does not even know what she wants out of life. This relationship was doomed from day 1 but you tried to make it work. You looked beyond her fauts and continued to work upon it. You knew she was spending time with another guy and still let it slide. 1 person can not fix a relationship it takes 2 and your partner was not looking to commit. She took you for a ride and I hope you have learned your lesson. I do hope you had the car in your name so you can rightfully get it back and do hope you got the ring back
2007-02-07 00:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to move on, she is 16 and sounds like she is very immature and still wants to play games, but you have to remember she is only 16, you are 21, probably alot more mature than she is and if she wants someone else then let her be with him, find someone else go out with friends and do whatever you can to get over her, also if she really loved you that much she wouldn't have been that hard to take away from you. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-07 00:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is still growing up. She needs to see if there is something else out there. When i was her age i was in a serious relationship and i had to get out to find out what else was in the world. She is still in school. She has activities and other things going on in school. all her friends are out having fun and she was living like she was married it puts alot on a 16 year old. When she told you and her eyes were watering that means she cares about your feelings but she needs out for right now. You will be ok and it was probably for the best. good luck in everything and youll be ok.
2007-02-14 11:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by apriljean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you let her go. She doesn't love you don't try to make something work that is going to brake your heart over and over again. I was so in love with my ex-boyfriend but everytime I saw him with other girls I fell deeper and deeper into my broken heart. One day I just said I am worth better than to be so caught up on one person. I began flirting with guys again and I found someone I love. You need to let go. Try to understand life will go one even though it does not seem like it will. When you stop crying over her look for a new fish in the see! Flirt with someone! You might find someone you love even more!
2007-02-07 00:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by Hoopz C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It obviously wasn't working out. I would want someone to love me for me and never want to be with another. With that said I think that you should move on. Like you said, this is only day one and you need to give it time. I know a lot of people say it takes time, but it really does. Keep yourself busy and try not to think about it. Everything happens for a reason, maybe your reason is because in your future there is someone better. Good luck!
2007-02-07 00:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
bro, she is five years younger than you. she obviously needs time to figure things out. Sure she might love you to death but she is too young to make any big decisions- like to get married. The definition of love is something that only a mature person can decipher. So it could be either one of two things: one, she just soaked you for the car, dog, ring, and sex. or two, she needs time to figure out if you are the one.
2007-02-14 23:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by misselizabee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably too young for a committed relationship. Sounds like you scared her a little by being overprotective, and she just wants out of the relationship, but is also confused about her feelings for you as well. Wish you could walk away from all this. So sorry for your pain--good luck, man.
2007-02-07 00:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for ya bro. You know what, two things- I bet she would do it again with telling a guy she would leave you, and the second thing is if you can, get out as gently as you can, that girl could get you in trouble with the law no doubt- value your freedom, and leave on good terms, I know it's hard, but you have to stay away from girls under 18.
2007-02-07 00:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋